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*hosyn
writes:My ex left me two years ago and after a messy split I thought I was moving on with my life (although I stil loved him). We ran in to each other and arranged to meet, we did and he wants me back. Now I'm not sure if I want him. I'm worried about other peoples reactions as my family and friends hate him and disapproved of our relationship before. I'm not sure if I want to try dating him again and see how I feel as not sure it would be worth all the arguments with my friends and family, but then another part of me is saying i should give it one last try. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, rhosyn +, writes (7 March 2007):
rhosyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe never changed, my advice to those of you that have doubts about a relationship is to leave it well alone because there is a reason for that doubt even if you can't explain it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): well, the main concern here is 'what ever reasons that you happened to break up the first time'...do you think he has changed? two years is quite some time and a lot of growth can happen in that time. maybe he needed to focus on his career or where he was heading in life. there may be numerous reasons why he decided to break up. now is the time to see if any changes have taken place. parents, family and friends will always have an opinion...but if they love you, they will stand behind you no matter what you decide to do.
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reader, rhosyn +, writes (20 January 2007):
rhosyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMen I just don't understand them!! On thurday (18th of Jan) we agreed that we would give it another go but on Friday (19th of Jan) he sent me a text message in the afternoon saying he didn't think it would work out. he's the one thats been pushing it along and then I agree and he changes his mind. I asked him why and he said he didn't want a relationship. How can he change his mind that quickly? I just don't get it! Should I pursue it and try and get a better explanation and see if we can work whatever is bothering him out or just leave well alone? I'm really confused now don't know what to do.
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reader, rhosyn +, writes (17 January 2007):
rhosyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDon't know hy I'm so indecisive but I have changed my mind I'm just not sure and so can't tell him that I want a relationship with him as not sure taht is what I want. I just wish the decision wasn't mine to make. What am I going to do?
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reader, rhosyn +, writes (17 January 2007):
rhosyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies, I have since decided that I will give it a go and take things slowly with my ex, that way I won't have any regrets in the future!!!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (16 January 2007):
 It doesn't really have anything to do with your friends and family who you date but it sounds like you're using that as an excuse to show yourself that you don't want to get back with him. You don't say why you broke up originally. Think back and think if those reasons still exist and whether YOU really want to be with him, because if you do the friends and family won't even be a blip on your radar!
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reader, Daysie +, writes (16 January 2007):
 I suggest you try dating without telling your friends and family to start off with and see how you get on now the dust has settled. If things work out well then you can break the news gently and tell them you are happy being reunited with your ex. It's your life and you are free to make your own choices, whatever the consequences with your friends and family, but hopefully they will what whatever makes you happy. If you start seeing your ex again try not to dwell too much on whatever the cause of your split was as may open old wounds and the same thing could happen again. Proceed with caution all round. Best of luck.
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