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*herrybomb
writes:I was in a short relationship last year, around 2 months. He broke up with me after 2 months saying that it was him and not me. I was so confused as when we were together he would tell me that he has never been so happy.After a year i haven't stopped thinking about him. I see him out now and again and we still chat online sometimes but i always start the convo.He has no idea i still feel like this and he says that he gets lonely and gets sad sometimes. What do i do, do i tell him and risk the fact that he might not even want to talk to me anymore.... or do i tell him and see what happens. Its really making me depressed and i can't stop thinking about the good times we hadHELP!!!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Next time you're chatting with him on line and he says he's gets sad and lonely, ask him if there's anything you can do to help. Or you might ask him if he ever misses what the two of you had? Or you might say something like, "yeah, I get sad and lonely too....and I miss you at times.....do you think you're missing our relationship, or just being with someone in general (not necessarily me)...?" and see what he says. As long as you don't come on too strong, he may open up and tell you more.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Hi cheerybomb.
Are you sure you're not pining for him because hes dangled the lonely carrot and you feel you can be his savior? Just wondered. 2 months isnt an awful long time to even get to know someone, let alone have feelings for them. And it was over a year ago you had anything with him of significance?
An ex is an ex for a reason and i would be real careful if you slip back into anything with him again. Him wanting to date someone because hes lonely isnt a good basis starting point for a relationship. The odds of it being any different this time are actually quite slim.
Do a lot of thinking first!
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): I don't understand why he's not trying to talk to you 1st if he's so sad & lonely yet he makes it a point to tell u he's sad & lonely. Has he been dumped recently? Ask him why he's so sad & then take it from there. You'd feel stupid if you told him how you felt then he revealed he's hurt from someone else.
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reader, war37 +, writes (13 September 2007):
Hes just talking to you telling you hes lonely,I wouldnt go back to him 2nd chances usually dont work.Try not contacting him as in time you will forget him,hes keeping you dangling to have you there hes not stupid he knows how you feel about him.Leave him to his self and you will both find the happiness you deserve xx
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