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My ex keeps popping up in my mind

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Question - (15 July 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 17 July 2009)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

Hey guys, Well i have a bit of a problem on my hands and desperately need a bit of help!! Sorry if this post is a bit long, so bare with me!!

I am 21yrs old, I am bi-sexual, and I have a girlfriend who is 24yrs old, who i have been with for nearly a year and a half now. She is the only girl ive ever had a relationship with, i have always had boyfriends in the past.

Thats where my problem is, my ex, who is a male, keeps popping up in my mind and i cant shake it. I left this male ex of mine for my current girlfriend, not because we were unhappy (we were actually very good together, had moved in together etc) but because i fell for this girl and left him for her.

I do love my girlfriend to bits, i adore her, would do anything for her. But we have quite a few issues, mostly trust and insecurity, which are destroying us. We argue alot. Her ex (female) is also causing a lot of problems, is constantly trying to break us up, but txting horrible messages, ringing constantly, etc. I love this girl so much and i dont know how much longer i can stay in this relationship, but id rather be unhappy that leave her and hurt her, thats how much i care for her.

My ex on the other hand, we were best friends for a year before we got together so i think there will always be emotion there. Especially as we didnt end our relationship on bad terms. He is still in love with me apparently, and wants to get back with me so badly. I have alot of trouble getting him out of my head, he is such a lovely genuine person and literally worships the ground i walk on. I truelly think we might be soul mates.. I know i have feelings for him, but im angry at myself because i dont understand whats going on in my head.

No matter what i do im going to hurt one of them and that breaks my heart.

Is it possible to love two people? Am i with the wrong person?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009):

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Thanks very much guys, you have helped me alot :) Im much happier now. Take care :) x

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (15 July 2009):

Fatherly Advice agony auntYou ask " is it possible to love two people?" The answer is yes there are plenty of historical accounts. The real question is is it easy? Almost never. The same historical accounts show plenty of turmoil and even bloodshed. You do love them both and seem to be unwilling to chose only one. You are living with one and keeping the other on hold "just in case". What your current girlfriend's ex girlfriend is doing to you, you are doing to your ex boyfriend by not letting him go after you made a commitment to your girlfriend. If you are committed to her you can get through the jealous ex girlfriend. If you are not you will not survive the stress. When the Vikings landed they burned their ships, so there was no going back. You still have on foot in the boat. So, are you with the wrong person? I'll answer you with a question. Who are you committed to? That is the right person.


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A male reader, joe26 Hong Kong +, writes (15 July 2009):

joe26 agony auntit seems your ex is a nice person. After you've dumped him for your current gf , he still wants to take you back coz he loves you to said both were happy and theres nothing wrong with your ex, why did you break up with him at the first place?? i don't think your with the wrong person either. Its just you should know what you are doing is wrong. Don't put yourself thru...just be with him/her who you feel more comfortable with and who you treasure the mmost. Hope it helps


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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009):

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I am also a female if that helps, i forgot to write that in my question!!

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