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female
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anonymous
writes:I wish my ex-boyfriend would stop ignoring me.See, we have a bit of a complicated relationship. We started dating about six months ago, and then he fell for some other girl while he was with me. He broke it off, but he continued to communicate with me because he wanted to stay friends. He was even there for me during a tough moment in my life. Then he wanted to get back together with me while he was still with the girl he left me for.So, we got back together, and he dumped the other girl. He told me he loved me and that he thought he'd made a mistake breaking up with me. We became a couple again.But then, only a few weeks later, he decided he no longer wanted to commit to one girl. He said he still loved me, but I couldn't deal with him sleeping with other girls (namely the girl he originally left me for) while still seeing me. It just seemed, as still seems, wrong to me. So, I told him I didn't want to see him anymore.Now when I try to communicate with him the same way he did with me after originally leaving me, he's hesitant. It's like he can play yo-yo with me, but I can't with him. That's not even my intention - I just miss him.What should I do?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 March 2012):
 EVERY guy wants to arrange things so that he will have multiple girls who will do s*x with them. It's what makes young guys breathe!!!!!
You are, prospectively, one of those girls for one of those guys..... and, it sounds like you're not content to be one of many.... Soooo,
Don't be....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 March 2012):
 He’s your EX right? You told him you didn’t want to see him anymore because he couldn’t be faithful right?
He is ignoring you because he’s an EX and there is no need for EX partners who have no children to have contact.
Let him go. Move on with life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2012): Stop talking to him!!! Why are you okay being 2nd, 3rd or 4th best on his list? Don't you want to be someones ONLY girl?? You're ruining your confidence and your emotional health by continuing with him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2012): In this situation you should walk away. In a period of six months he has left you for another girl, then dumped her because he wanted you, then broke up with you so he could have you both at the same time. He is a player, he wants to have his fun without having to even consider how you feel or how this other girl feels. Now your trying to communicate with him, and he is hesitant about it, so he should be. My guess is that he knows you can't handle and won't play his game, he can;t have both you and the other girl, so he has found someone who he can have as well as her. I know you miss him, because you care about him, but he will only continue to hurt you over and over again, while you let him. A friendship with him isn;t going to work and by the sounds of it isn't going to happen. Stop contacting him, find your way to move on, hang out with friends, take up a hobby, whatever works for you to get over this man. You are worth a lot more than this. Take care and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2012): Hi
stop sleeping with him. no sex..nothing without a committed relationship
stop texting ringing ..go to places where you might bump into him.
take up a hobby...or see a long lost friend..but whatever no contact.
you stillhave feelings/love him ...he does not love you..or respect you. He is playing with your feelings and using you. I def would walk away. no more third time..thats it. I would def not go back after what you have said.
cry ..grieve..but dont go back now. he does not love you..
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