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writes:How can I convince my ex-mate that I'm not a backstabber and that she's done worse and what I did wasn't bad. If I am in the wrong please tell me. My ex-mate (I'll call her K) K dated this guy for approx 5 days, within this 5 days she told more than 3 men she would do anything they wanted etc (I personally think that's cheating) she sent pictures to over 10 guys and G (her boyfriend then) dumped her because he realized that she had no personality at all and she only wanted sex. About a week later G got my phone number from K and we spoke for hours everyday, he told me he picked the wrong person and told me all the crap she had told EVERYONE about me (that I'm obese, never shave, smell, never close my legs and that I have 4 brothers that beat everyone up, the last one just sounds stupid, but where I'm from that can get you into A LOT of trouble because everyone takes that as a threat.) G asked if I would go out with him, I said yes. Later K phoned me screaming at me, saying I was her best mate and that G was the only man she’d ever loved (She said the exact same about the last 20 guys) I told her she was never a best mate and that I wasn’t doing anything wrong because G dumped her. ALSO K had slept with my ex over 30 times when I was still with him! NOW K is telling G she’s pregnant with his kid, which always happens when she’s dumped for cheating.So, am I in the wrong or not? And how do I get her to shut up if I’m not in the wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): no offense but while your former friend clearly behaved badly, and doesn't seem to be a great friend to you, this G guy doesn't sound like the best sort of person either. he deliberately told you things to turn you against your friend. trash talking exgirlfriends and being manipulative in that way should be a massive red flag. just be careful, is all i'm saying.
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reader, Jodie_Kinsz +, writes (27 December 2009):
 Meet her somewhere publicly - You may find it uncomfortable, but if you meet her somewhere in public and have a quiet conversation about whats been happening and how wrong you think she's treated you and all these other people, maybe she will start to see how your feeling without screaming abuse about you, and tell her she has no right to tell people lies like that, it's rude and totally inappropriate. i hope this helps. jodie, x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't name this post, just in case people have a problem with "sl*t" lol. :]
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