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*asharni
writes:My ex contacted me after a year of silence. I was stunned naturally but I stayed completeley aloof and agreed to meet him up for drinks this Friday. It was all his suggestion. Oddly, he began laying terms and conditions on me like "I'm not ready for a relationship and us meeting shouldn't suggest so." I hadn't implied anything in the first place. If anything, he went out of his way to track me down and ask me out!Anyway, since hearing those words, I have ensured to stay aloof. He's been randomly texting me over the weekend but I haven't replied, out of not seeing a need to respond. By this I mean, he wasn't leaving me anything to respond to. For example "I'm not much of an eater. But I don't mind drinks." Okay.....as you can see, the texts sound more like statements rather than direct questions. So he texts me today saying "you're not much of a texter are you?" What does he want me to say? Wouldn't you stay aloof towards someone who said that they weren't ready for a relationship? Besides, what is he getting paranoid about? He knows we're definetly on for this Friday. he can ask all the question he wants then. Can anyone shed light on this situation, as in why are the signals mixed?
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reader, tasharni +, writes (6 November 2007):
tasharni is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTell me about it!! You know something? Even though he admits he wants me back I don't know, something tells me not to be so hasty and respond the way he wants. Last year he bailed out on me on the basis that he didn't want a relationship and lo and behold he's still sining the same song a year later. After Friday depending on what is said I think I'll be telling him where to go!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 In direct terms, I believe he wants you back, but he doesn't want you to think you will ever be having a relationship again. He just wants "the benefits", and is testing the waters.
I must say that I find him odd. You hadn't even tried to contact him, and he comes back, giving you his "terms".
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