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writes:ive just turned 26 and feel like im in a rut. I work at a hospital in administration and the job is well paid but very mundane although it has a lot of reponsibilities and is quite a respectful job. My dream though is to be a model. I have tried to get in to it by applying to different agencies but I always get turned down. I know Im not ugly and Im always told by friends and strangers that I have the figure for it, yet I cant get into it. People say never give up on your dreams but I think with this one I have to?? I really wanted to be somebody, do something exciting with my life and even though Im 26 the thought of settling down with kids scares me. I dont know what to do. im not happy with the way things are but it looks like I will just have to put up with it and carry on. But I feel so depressed.
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reader, magic mike  +, writes (15 July 2009):
Hey... Its not the end of the world, your time will come and if it is not modelling it will be something else. Then you will be saying I am glad I didnt get into that... this is heaps better, and that will lead to other things.It is normal to feel in a rut, no matter your position in life.I am 30, married with a beautiful wife(it took me a year of chasing her to convince her to date me) So you could say I got the woman of my dreams I have a girl and a company,and I sometimes feel like you do.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 It sounds like you want to do something fast and glamorous that takes you around the world. Have you thought of cabin crew. The only thing is that they do not pay loads but you will meet LOADS of people. Who knows where you may end up next! what about acting!Good luck!
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reader, Jayney Y +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Your job in the hospital may be mundane, but even if you were just the hospital janitor you'd be contributing a lot more to the community and society than you would if you were a model. I know that the glam life seems appealing to young women, but in reality they give nothing of any value. Why don't you decide on a more worthwhile career that isn't centered on vanity and other vacuous attributes?
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reader, mytwocents  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Modeling is equal parts luck and “look.”
You can’t feel bad because you didn’t have the luck (yet). You have to be in the exact right place at the exact right time. It’s like you have to be pretty AND get struck by lightening--either thing is rare but, together, the odds are very low. It's the nature of the business.
Plus, the “look” is always changing. Being traditional pretty or proportionate isn’t enough. You may look gorgeous, but if you don’t “go with” the current fashion trends, you’ll get passed up.
I’ve worked around the fashion industry for some time and know that every model has to have a Plan B and Plan C. You’re young enough to develop your other options. Keep trying for Plan A, but work on some alternatives.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 July 2009):
Remember that models are not pretty girls. They are picked because they are very bland looking. That way they can be used as blank canvasses for all the slap and photoshopping.
Also at 26 you are a bit old as they like to have 15 year olds that they can manipulate.
When you say you have "the figure" for it, do you mean that you are stick think with no boobs? If you have a nice figure (eg - you don't throw up everything you eat) then remember that this is not what they are after.
You need to figure out what it is about being a model that attracted you. Was it the clothes? The dressing up? The being looked at and being yelled at to look happy in a freezing cold warehouse at 5 am when you are wearing nothing but pants?
Figure out what it was that you thought was going to be great about modelling and look at what other jobs have those things.
I'm 26 and I have absolutely no intention of settling down with kids any time soon. Find a job that inspires you and go for it!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (14 July 2009):
keep trying for it, Tyra banks got turned down loads and loads, but she kept going and it only takes one company to say yes, don't give up. You could try adding a bit more diversity to your portfolio, that always helps.
Good luck!! :)
Let us know when you make it big ;)
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