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writes:hi everyone,i need help, i need advice., my daughter was only 16 and i found out she is positive" she is 1 week pregnant" i can not accept it specialy she still in her high school so i told her i can not accept it and her boyfriend was only 17 didnt even finish the high school, and dont even know how to work for his own needs. im very worried about the coming terrible future mess for her life. so i told her she will do the abortion, and she did it, im worried that after this she will do it again, she is a kind of misserable she thought no body love her and no body care for her but she is wrong, she is lucky to have her own family love her very much.. i dont know how to tell her that she should take everything easy not on rush because this hurrying gonna make her life worst and messy. pls. help her mother love her so much too and very worried to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): Hi,
I'm glad that you love your daughter so much, but please remember that you need to love your grandchild as well. Both your daughter and her little baby need your help.
Although life will be hard for your daughter, please help her have the baby -- she can put it up for adoption. But if she has an abortion, she may grieve the rest of her life. That sort of life would be ultimately more wounding to your daughter.
Thanks so much for listening. I will pray for your family!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): One week? Did a doctor confirm that or a home pregnancy testing kit? The first thing I would do would be to check that it is correct. One week is an awfully short amount of time for an accurate result. Most tests only give an accurate result after a missed period, usually two or three weeks into the pregnancy. Before then they are highly unreliable.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 ah the joys of having kids, girls no less.
well. she ain't the first and she certianly won't be the last person in history to have become preggers...
Now. i do have a question for you..
did YOU tell her she was getting an abortion?
or did you Ask she what she wanted?
How old were you when you first had sex? how old was your wife? everyone loses it at different ages.. how old were you parents when they both bumped uglies?
I understand she's you're special little princess, but. you can't keep her wrapped in cotton forever.
I'm sure you weren't no angel when you were her age. Yeah.. you know what i'm talking about.
"im worried that after this she will do it again,"
well.. have sex again? of course she will, thats life.. how do you think you got on this earth. or how she did?
And i imagen she would be misserable, she just had an abortion... thats not easy for anyone to go through.
You want to help her?
Get her either on the pill. or get her to have in 3 monthly injection or even the patch.
You can't stop her from growing up and experimenting and having sex. i know you don't want to hear that but you're daughter is having sex and will continue to have sex.
Trying to stop her will drive her away from you and you then won't have a daughter. which is excatly what happend to my father.
You wanna help her? understand she's growing older and things are going to change and you cannot stop that.
She is her own person and has to discover things the way she needs to... right or wrong, good or bad. experience is always a good thing. you may well want ehr to still be playing with barbies but.. she is not you she is becoming a woman and needs to find that out for herself.
btw.. legal age for sex in the uk is 16....look on the bright side we have 13 year olds on here saying they're pregnant.
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (16 January 2008):
 well this must be hard i no you will be dissapointed but this is harder for her then it is for you you need to tell her that you will be supportive with the abortion say to her that if she doesnt go through with it she wont be able to go out clubbing she wont be able to go out have a education a job and she wont be able to look after the baby without your help so just say to her look your still young she is age of concent to be having sex just tell her that if your going to have sex be more carefull tell her maybe to go on the pill aswell as using condoms it will be rough but i think if shes protective and loved by you and her boyfriend she will be ok but i think you need to be strong with this and really maybe push her into the abortion and maybe ask to have a talk with her and her boyfriend together just say u need to discuss it but she would want you to be understanding hope this helps xx
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