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writes:my dad he just married this women (names are changed) dian she i asian(not that it matters)she has three kids 2 boys 1 girl they are all above 14. and my dad has 4 kids with my mom. me and my 3 other brothers and sister.Well dian she does not want me and my 3 other brothers and sister around her and her kids.My dad and her are buying a house together and she is making him build a house on the same property so her and her kids can be in a house and then me and my brothers and sister can have a house so we don't be around her, how can i get my dad to understand this is wrong that she hates his kids\My dad tells me all these excuses telling me why this is going to happen but the main fact is she does not like us...when she wants me or my brothers or my sister to come to her she says 'its' or it it is just one she'll either say older boy older girl younger boy or younger girl and if we talk back to her say we have names she tells my dad and we get grounded and have to sit in the shed for 1 hour and there is no air and it is tourcher. what can i do to get my dad to change sides Reply to this Question
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reader, Brook_e_boo +, writes (11 July 2010):
Brook_e_boo is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you everyone my dad and dian are getting a devorse cause she is going to marry a 70 year old man for his mony
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reader, jonathan314 +, writes (9 June 2010):
The only thing I can say it timing and opportunity is everything. Approach him when he is in a good mood and tell him that you are unhappy. Most people in that mood will want to alleviate your unhappiness, which may present an opportunity for you to talk.You keep mentioning a hot shed, which doesn't sound right at all. If you are seriously being physically abused you can go to a school counselor.
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reader, Brook_e_boo +, writes (8 June 2010):
Brook_e_boo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy older brother is 17 then me im 14 then my younger brother is 12 and then my younger sister is 9. my mom she lives with her girlsfriend and only calls us when she wants money. i have tried to talk to my dad he yells us then we have to sit in the hot shed
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (7 June 2010):
 Where is your mother.. your father isn't listening and yes your right, this woman is rude and isn't treating you fairly. Why can't you live with your mother?
How old are your brothers and sisters, are you the oldest?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 June 2010):
 That really makes me sad that you have to go through this. Your dad should have put you 4 kids first in his life, not this new woman who mistreats you. I've never heard of a separate house for kids before, and your dad should have completely flipped his stack for even considering her demands. I understand building a bigger house with more rooms because of the larger family, but separate houses?! Who on earth is going to look after you kids in the separate house, since I assume your dad won't be living separate from his new wife.
I can't imagine the excuses your dad came up with to justify this. You're right. His wife doesn't like you if she can't even be bothered to learn your names and refers to you as "it".
I don't know if there's much you can do except speak to a school counselor about how your dad and his new wife want you to live (in a separate house without parents). I can only tell you that with time and patience, either it will get better and she'll warm up to you, or your dad will realize what a jerk she is.
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reader, Blondiebrooke69 +, writes (7 June 2010):
Well u r a minor so you cant move out unless u get amacipated which means u have to attend a court case and the judge will choose if your iin an abbusive or emotionally abbusive house. 2nd you could talk to your dad and explain to him how hurt you are and this woman is destroying your life and if this continues he is going to loose his family .....if that doesnt work all you can do is be there for your sibilings get a job at 15 start saving for a car so you can take your bros and sis out of thiis situation for a little part of the day. Good luck
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reader, jonathan314 +, writes (7 June 2010):
This sounds so terrible that I honestly don't know what to say. Your dad is a moron. End of story. Unfortunately part of growing up is learning that your parents are imperfect and can make stupid decisions just like you can. Any counselor would frown upon this course of action, because it is essentially isolating you from your own family.
My only advice would be to convey to him EXACTLY how it makes you feel and question him as to why he doesn't care about your feelings. You need to do this in a calm manner though, if tempers flare or accusations get thrown then the conversation must be over until you can reconvene.
Good luck, you are much too young to have to deal with this.
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