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writes:hi recently...well actualy last year me and my brother were home while my mom was out of town. me and him were just chillin, me playing guitar and him listening to music. but then he went downstairs and came up and said he heard another woman in my parents bedroom. then he saw a light and saw the lady get into her car...he then punched the lady's window and came back with bloody knuckles. my dad said he was imagining it and that my bro was crazy. until he saw the knuckles. so then we went to my mom and she ended up losing 9 lbs in a week. it is really hard for me to talk about this to people and even my parents. sometimes i just wanna beat the shit outta my dad, and i am having some deep emotional prblems. my mom cries alot but i dont really. now my bro has moved out my dad is gone, i see him but he moved out so its just me and my mom. i have also developed i guess what you could call a nervous tick...it doesnt really occur often just when i get really stressed out. what should i do to get through this. thankyou and god bless all of you. also im only 13
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): I am in the exact same position you are in. I googled "What to do when your dad cheats" and this thread came up. I feel sick to my stomach all the time, and I feel so guilty because I have been really awful to my mother (my dad hasn't been around alot, for obvious reasons). I haven't been doing well in school on purpose, and I have been being rude and talking back. God, if I only knew I would never have done any of that. I told her that I am going to do so much better. The whole situation of my father cheating on my mother sickens me. I feel like I am going to have to get another job and drop out of school to help pay for everything. I just found out about this last night and I haven't got a wink of sleep. Tell me how you are handling it so far, and how everything has panned out as of now. And if anyone has any advice, please share. Thank you, that is all.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 I'm sorry and I know what you're going through. My parents split when I was younger because my dad had an affair. I remember everything about that time. Not being able to laugh with my friends like before and hearing my mom cry every night. For the longest time, I was very angry/sad. This is a difficult situation. Be there for your mom as much as you can but do not forget that you are 13 and still deserve to enjoy your youth. It's ok to be angry but don't let it eat away at you. Find ways to relax yourself, keep playing music, write songs about what you're feeling and chill. Don't let you or mom stay in and feel miserable. Take her to movies, just you and her. Have dinner out sometime. If she refuses at first, that's normal. Just be firm and patient and sweet. "Mom, I know you're feeling down but I want us to go see a movie ok? Please? Let's spend some time together." You can take charge of your lives again. What your father did doesn't have to beat and keep you down. Go out with friends too. Best Wishes...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 October 2010):
 I'm sorry this has happened in your family. But if you look around this site you at least will find out you are definitely not alone. Marriages fall apart all the time. Know that none of this is your doing or fault. It really is a matter between your parents and they will have to straighten themselves out. It may actually turn out to be a good thing in the long run. Your Mom will be alright just give her time and your support. Try not to be too angry with your Dad even though he did something really nasty. I think once things have calmed down your tick will subside. Good luck Honey, and keep us posted. This is a great site to get things off your chest so come back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): Hi when I was 12 (I'm 17 now) my dad told me that he was leaving because he'd cheated on my mom. It was hard and even now I don't think I've fully forgiven him, my mom cried a lot and because I'm the eldest sibling i felt I needed to be strong for my little brother and my mom. My mom and Dad now are divorced and both have new partners.
I think you should talk to your Dad about it and try and ask him why he did it? Also try talking to your mom. Maybe you could talk to a teacher or a counceller who might be able to help.
What I do know is that you'll be ok.
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