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writes:Hey this is really embarassing but i have no one to turn upto for help.! Last night, me and my boyfriend were texting each other, rather talking dirty, when suddenly his mom and dadcaught him texting.His mother already hates me unlike his father, who must be upset with me as i had a nice image in front of him. He thought us to be friends and our relationship was a secret to his parents. But they had a doubt on both of us, which we both denied for the time being because we didnt want to hurt them. They are quite strict with my boyfriend. They read all our dirty messages that we send to each other at night. My boyfriend was really embarassed. He called me today from outside and asked me not to attend any call that his family do. Moreover, they have taken his mobile and he is under house arrest. They have beaten him continuously for 4 hours. Now he wont go out anywhere because of it as the texts were really dirty. His mom wants to talk to me, rather scold me but i am not picking up her call. I am scared. I wont be able to face his family anymore. I feel as if i have committed some sin. I know i did wrong but now i dont know how to face them. :(Please please help me. I am stressed over it since last night. What should i do? I am scared she may tell my family about it as she used to blackmail me about the same. :( Help.!
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reader, Rebeccaa  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 Hello, i dont realy have any advice, but something simular happend to me, i sent a few naughty texts too my boyfriend (whos is no longer my boyfriend) and they were very dirty, anyway my mum found them on my phone and threatned to go round to his house at first she was totally cool with it and siad i could go on the pill then she acted the opposie took my laptop off me and my phone so then i thought well she shouldnt have been looking through my message anyway so i put a pin on my messages and then she took my phone off me again and said she wanted the pin number, anyway the suituation did blow over in time.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 Wait a min...what "sin" are you talking about?! Isn't this whole thing being blown WAY out of proportion? So you exchanged a few naughty texts. Why this over the top reaction? Agreed it must be a shock to the parents and something no parent would want to be caught in the middle of, but why did they have to snoop into his phone? If both of you are legally not minors, then your parents cannot really control you. I'm not asking you to rebel against them, I'm just saying, deal with it properly without freaking out.
Even if his mom's overreacting, his dad should at least see the situation objectively. Its not the end of the world, you weren't doing anything illegal or immoral, it was just some text messages! Geez!!
As of now, let the situation cool down a bit. Don't aggravate an already volatile situation. Keeping your bf under house arrest is just too much! why dont parents get it...the more they try to actively ban a child from doing something, the more the child will do it. Not only does it NOT solve the problem, it spurs the child to continue doing it in stealth!
Anyway, please don't be stressed. You're not the first couple who's been "caught" texting, and you certainly wont be the last. Hope your boyfriend gets out of the mess soon. As for you, keep a cool head, don't worry because you haven't done anything horribly wrong and don't ever let anyone bully you.
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