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writes:Im seeing a guy who I really like. The only problem is his best friend. We really dont get on and never have. I knew him before I met my boyfriend we have know each other for years. I could quite happily be civil to him but he has to badmouth me to my boyfriend all the time, moaning at him for spending time with me, asking him what he's doin with me etc. Sometimes he even says it in front of me. I dont want to react to it as it will make me look bad but there is no point talking to him and asking him to stop cos I know he wont, he's the type of man that doesnt really respect anyone so if you dont get on with him then he doesnt care what he says to you. Im just scared hes gonna put my boyfriend off me, which is what I know he will try to do.Its also really embaressing for me to have someone hate me like this, cos I havnt done anything to make him hate me, we just have a clash of personalities. I dont know what I should do or how to behave in a situation like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Perhaps this friend likes you himself, and is being unkind to your boyfriend about you to try and "subtly" get rid of the competition. Either that, or he's jealous that his friend's time has been monopolised by you - as isn't that what happens in the beginning of relationships? - and is being unpleasant because of that. Or he just doesn't like you, and it is a "clash of personalities" as you say.
Put this friend in his place - tell him "I do not appreciate how unpleasant you are being about me to my boyfriend, and making me feel bad. There are two people in this relationship, and you are not one of them. You have to stop talking about me like that to my boyfriend."
Ask your boyfriend to stand up for you to his friend and see that this is rude and unacceptable.
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