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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend lied to me and I don't understand why ? Hi I just started going exclusive with my boyfriend of 1 month we really like each other . Last weekend he told me his best friends daughter was having a birthday party and he was going to help set up and stuff so couldn't see me that night . His best friend of 20 years is a women and I'm ok with that there kids are friends . I have yet to meet his best friend we were supposed to meet a few times once she was sick and another time she never called my boyfriend back. I also have yet to meet my boyfriends kids but it is definatly early yet for that. Anyways.... So I can see the reason me not getting an invite to the party would be because my boyfriends kids may be attending . I have no problem with this but .. Today I just happened to notice via Facebook him in a pic at a B Day party for his Best Friend the adult and not her 14 year old daughter ?? Huh ? It was at a bar with only other adults . Why did he lie to me about this ? Is it too early for me to meet his best friend ? Is he hiding me ? I have all these thoughts in my head and don't want him to know I snooped on his friends page on FB . What should I do ? A part of me wants to dump him over principle of lying . Thanks for reading and any advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2015): One thing you should consider is that a birthday is a very personal thing to a lot of people. When people celebrate their birthdays they want it to be with their close friends and family. Maybe his friend requested a "friends only" type of thing. And everyone has to appease and entertain the birthday girl. It just wasn't the right time to meet her, maybe he thought you would feel left out. Not only that but maybe the birthday was prepaid or something. Maybe she rented the bar out and could only invited a specific amount of people.
He lied just to not make you feel bad. I wouldn't even mention it to him. It's just going to make you look bad and give him way too much importance.
If anything just tell him you will be busy this weekend and go do your own thing and take some time to cool off.
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