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writes:My boyfriend finally came home after being incarcerated for parole violation. The thing is I'm having a hard time being comfortable and dealing with the idea that he's not going to leave me again, in one way or another. I'm feeling very paranoid and sad. I missed him so much, and I do love him, but certain issues of mine keep coming up. I know he's trying to help me through it, but I can't help but worry. He hasn't done anything outright, but I question some of his choices. I'm so afraid his family will have him violate parole and I'll be the one stuck waiting again. Sometimes, I feel I'm way too simple and boring to keep him happy. I dont know, I talked to him, but it didn't make me feel reassured, as right now, he's already violating parole by leaving his designated area to go visit his dad. I can't stop him, can't ask him to choose either. It's just his family encourages him to do some of their not-so-legal things, and I cant take it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): sounds like this guys a huge loser to me, why are you putting up with this? he might love you, i cant say for sure but he is doing the same thing and probably expects you to wait up for him again. you can get yourself a guy who wants a loyal woman by his side why stick with one who cant? he doesnt care that you waited he knowshe got you on lock down. both of you were incarcerated only oneof you got out. decide who that is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): sounds like this guys a huge loser to me, why are you putting up with this? he might love you, i cant say for sure but he is doing the same thing and probably expects you to wait up for him again. you can get yourself a guy who wants a loyal woman by his side why stick with one who cant? he doesnt care that you waited he knowshe got you on lock down. both of you were incarcerated only oneof you got out. decide who that is.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (10 February 2011):
 He's making self destructive choices. At this rate he will be locked up again because it's obvious he didn't learn his lesson. The saddest part is that doing something like going to visit his dad is something that many parole officers will allow if you just talk to them first. If they find out some other way, your ass is grass.
You can tell him what you're thinking and feeling, but his choices are his own, and you have to decide if you want to be with someone who is so self destructive and who ignores your input. That doesn't sound like someone who appreciates you. At least not to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): actually, i hid some facts, he has been violating parole by driving, rigt now he's visiting his dad who lives outside of his parole mandated bounds and i dont know why he has to? he's also meeting upwith someone he met while in jail. i feel like a joke, i waited five months for a guy who doesn't take parole serious and this is his third time. he keeps telling me itsok, he loves me, he just wants to spend time with his dad, but i dont get it. he lives with me and this could cause problems again for my family andi ifhe violates. im sorry, i just feel so sick and stupid.
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