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writes:hi Am 16 and still a virgin. I have been boyfriend since I was 12 but now he is getting impatient and no longer wants to wait I don't want to be a clique (lost virginity at 16) and it's also against my believes, and now he has brought a lesbian girl into the relationship who wants to do numerous things to me. Am so confused because I believe am not ready but he says my body is fully matured and ready for sex. What is the best advice for me?
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reader, Tamz  +, writes (8 November 2013):
Don't feel pressured to have sex if you don't want to and if he has brought a lesbian into the relationship that's bad as relatus consist of two people not three I think you should tell him how you feel and if he don't agree just move on and I'm sure you will find someone else that appreciates your descisons to have sex good luck!!! :) xx
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reader, princess A +, writes (27 October 2013):
princess A is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advise now am sure am not wrong In my choice of starting with someone new...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2013): Break up. He wants to already bring another girl in... That's bad news
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2013): BREAK UP!!
HE IS A SHITTY BOYFRIEND!
You've been together a long time, if he truly cared there wouldn't be the random addition of this lesbian?!
If he respected you and your body he would not pester for sex and he would not have a lesbian asking to do things to you, when you are straight. He is trying to fufil his own deluded fantasies.
Please, please leave this guy. I have never ever read something on here that's quite as worrying and saddening. You are a young woman who deserves better than this and I urge you to believe this. It will be hard to part but looking at the bigger picture this is for the best.
Take care
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (26 October 2013):
 Since he no longer wishes to wait and is making you feel uncomfortable by pestering you for sex and introducing a third party who's also pestering you, it's time to leave him and let him (and her) get sex elsewhere. Seriously, he's being disrespectful. Never, ever, do anything you're not comfortable with or ready for when it comes to sex. People who try to push your boundaries are bad news, and he's attempting some serious boundary busting. Move on and take life at your own pace. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2013): BREAK UP WITH HIM!
I know it will be hard, but trust me, there are WAY better guys out there. Go find someone who will respect you! Or, better yet, someone who is also waiting. Then you'll know he's doing it for himself to, not just for you :)
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reader, Joyie  +, writes (26 October 2013):
Sweet,ure just 16,Dnt let him dictate for you,you owe yoursef so choose what you want and believe in,he jst wants to satisfy his sexual desires not minding if ure ok or not..it is a mutual thing,since you dont want it never oblige!! Tell him u cant,and if he kips pestering just leave him cos he isnt worthy of u,hes only concernred abt himsef and nt you aswell
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 October 2013):
 What is the best advice? To step away from this boy 100%. Not only does he NOT respect YOU, the relationship OR your beliefs.
I think your BF has been watching a little too much porn and thinks that starting out with all kind of sexual things is going to make you screw like a pornstar.
As for your body being fully mature? WTH? It's NOT just about your body, it about YOU and how YOU feel. YOU don't feel ready, which means YOU aren't ready.
I think you should dump him. If not he will keep trying to manipulate you into doing things you don't want to do.
JUST because you have been "dating" since you were 12 doesn't mean you OWE him your first time or ANYTHING else. Honestly at 16 I think it's rather smart to NOT start having sex. Because it is BETTER to be in control rather then let the hormones dictate your life.
He is thinking with his penis. Not at all thinking OF you or how you may feel, what you may WANT. It's about him getting HIS, not about you at all.
What would you tell a peer/female friend if she told you her BF was doing/saying the things your BF is?
Stick to your guns. If you want to wait til YOU are ready, then DO so. If he can't wait, then he isn't for you. Having waited from 12-16 is NOT at all important because sex shouldn't even matter at 12-16.
Don't try and please him to keep him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 October 2013):
 The best advice is to "listen" to those voices in your head... And NOT to this so-called "boyfriend".... who has begun to have that intense itch between his knees.... which itch occurs whence our (guys') testosterone starts to flow (i.e. puberty sets in).....
IF'n he continues to pressure you, you may find it more comfortable to simply stop seeing him.... and THAT would be just fine....
P.S. His B/S about your body being "fully matured" and "ready for sex" is right out of my book, titled: "Plausible-sounding things that a guy can say to a girl to get her to put out, even if she's not ready and doesn't want to go "all the way" with you"
Good luck....
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