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writes:I have been going out with my boyfriend for just over 3 months now, i know it doesnt seem long but you know when you have that connection that is soo strong and makes you feel like their the one, well hes that guy. Any way he just left for army training today and its killing be like really taking it out on me, i feel soo alone, my friends dont understand so dont talk to me, neither does my mum and i know his mum and sister understand i wont get to see them all the time.I was just wanting to know if there was anyone in my shoes or had been in my shoes and could just give me some advice or talk to me or something.. its hard... really hard, we both want a future and i know we can get through this, i just dont know how really.thanks.x Reply to this Question
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reader, nicole2011joe  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 Hey this is to any girl )wonen who has a man in the army my boyfriend just left on sunday for training its awful I feel so loneli and lost too , its very hard but I don't want to give up we've been together 9months and he's the one ! He said he feels loneli to and its the hardest thing he's done ! Anyone out there feeling the same DON'T give up that's giving in stay strong and talk to anyone u no will listen it will helpo u get throw it x
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reader, ilovehimx3  +, writes (3 February 2010):
Hi, I'm actaully going through the same thing you are. My boyfriend and I have been going out for nine months and he just left for basic traning yesterday and I'm really devastated. I dont know what to do or who to talk to, so i decided to responde back to your comment. I know its gonna be really hard and everything but before you know it hes gonna be home soon and everything will be okay you just have to get through it and stay busy! he will write letters and eventually you can go visit him. But for now, just remeber all the good memories and hopefully things will get better. I hope this helpsNicole
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): My Boyfriend left today too! We have lived together since september purely because we knew this day would come, and we wanted to spend as much time together as possible!! Have been together for about 3 years now, but I don't think it makes any difference how long you've been together. He's a person you care about and when he's gone it's hard. My boyfriend has only been gone since 2pm this afternoon, so 2ish hours down the line and i feel totally lost, your not alone its definitely difficult to just say goodbye and know its going to be a really long time before you can hug them or hold their hand again!!
Keep strong, at times like these you have to remember that basic training is the first step and even though we miss them, imagine the sadness of those that have lost their sons boyfriends and husbands, its sad, very sad. so we need to be strong!!!!! Keep smiling. remember your man, he's thinking of you when times are tough so dont get yourself down. when he speaks to you he'll want you to be positive for him!! x
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reader, squeezeybear +, writes (8 January 2010):
When my boyfriend first went away for training it absolutely killed me, so your not alone! The worst thing you can do is sit feeling sorry for yourself because it makes time pass even more slowly! As hard as it is try and push it to the back of your mind, tell yourself it only a couple more days or he'll be home next week. Training isn't so bad, really. He'll have is phone with him and connection to the internet so theres plenty of opportunity to keep in contact. Me and my boyfriend lived by the moto that we'd always say good night to one another even if he was too busy to speak to me properly through out the day. It isn't much but it worked for me. Also using a site like facebook is a big help to keep your lad up to date with what you've been doing and how your friends are going on. Write letters too, you'll find them so much more meaningful than texts and you look over them when your sad.
I know your upset right now because you just can't get over the fact hes gone, I was the same. But soon you'll be counting down the days untill hes home, not how many hes been gone for, you'll be surprised how fast time goes! Besides having a boyfriend in the army is the best! Its always so passionate and keeps its spark, because we're always so happy to see one and other! Plus when he is gone you get all this free time to spend independantly, doing what you want to do with your friends without him spying! I know its not for everyone but I love having a soldier boyfriend! Hope this puts your mind at ease, you'll be fine!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 January 2010):
I'm not in this situation, but I'm sure every army wife and girlfriend feels this way. I'm sure the British army has a support network, so maybe ask your boyfriend about that, or have a look on the internet. Then you can talk to women who are in the same situation, and maybe meet some of them as well.
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