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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys, I have lived with my boyfriend for over a year and the last few months he has became so addicted to video games. He is on them from sunrise to sunset! the only time he is not on them is when he is sleeping or eating. I do not mind that he likes video games it is just that he is on it all the time! he gives me no attention anymore, he doesnt even look at me when I speak to him, he just stares at that screen!! I have tried to talk to him about it but he continues to stare at the screen and say I'm hassling him. Even though he could see how upset I was by it, I left the room and was crying and he is still on that game. I feel unwanted and unloved due to this. I am not the kind of girl that needs constant attention but I would atleast like it if he looked at me when I spoke to him!!!!!! This gets me so annoyed and upset. I have no idea what to do, it's a sad day when you lose your boyfriend to a games console!!!!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 August 2012):
 The way you are feeling is completely normal. If he is on it all day expect for eating and sleeping then he obviously is addicted to it and it has taking over his life. It cannot be healthy for him either as he is getting no exercise and excluding himself from the real world. As you say there is nothing you can do as you have tried speaking to him but it has not worked. So now you need to decide what is best for you. Is it to remain in a relationship with a man that only has eyes for a video game, or would it be to get out and enjoy your life and find someone who will give you the attention you deserve? I know what my answer would be.
However I am also aware that you no doubt love him and want to be with him so it is not just easy to say right its over. But he cannot keep treating you like this and expect it to be okay therefore I suggest once he logs of for bed or to make food. Explain to him that although you do not mind him playing it he does not show you any attention any more, explain to him that unless he cuts down and does other things with his life then you will have no choice but to end things. He may just see this as a threat but you need to be firm, tell him he has two weeks to change things around, agree to maybe him playing an hour or two a day and if he still has not changed in them two weeks then show him you meant it and find somewhere to stay, if this still does not change anything well then I am afraid you obviously do not mean that much to him.
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