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writes: Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. About 6 months ago we started talking about how we would like to have kids together. Well we were shooting around September just happend earlier, now i'm about 3 months pregnant and he has completely changed. He doesn't understand my pregnancy at all, morning sickness, fatique etc...He thinks that people are only sick and tired because they want to be and that I can just magically make myself feel better if I wanted to. He works longer hours, anytime he is at home he finds things to do I think so he doesn't have to hang around me. He doesn't listen to anything I say anymore, I feel like I lost my friend and I don't have anyone to talk to anymore. I was happy about being pregnant when we first found out now I just feel depressed all the time. I feel like i'm having a kid with someone who is just going to end up being just a friend. I feel farther and farther apart all the time and everytime I try to talk to him he gets mad and walks out. We're not married, anytime someone asks if we will be getting married he says well kurt russel and goldie hawn aren't and he seems totaly against the idea of marriage, but then again he was going to marry someone he was cheating on his ex with after only knowing them a few months. He says that i'm not happy because he works all the time and doesn't spend any time with me, that's not true and he doesn't listen to me long enough for me to tell him why I'm not happy. I feel like i'm not getting anything I want out of a relationship and I feel that i'm not being treated the way I would want to be treated by the father of my kid. Does anyone have any advice?
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reader, claire_x100 +, writes (17 September 2006):
 Well congrats on the baby. Try and sit down cook a meal see how it goes if not try writing him a letter explain how you feel, maybe he doesnt know how to react to whats happenin. I'm sure once he gets use to it he will start to understand. If u have planned for having this baby then he might jus be nervous, but if it was unexpected then he could be in shock. Just talk to him thats all you can do, also it will be harder because you have to think about your baby to, but dont do things for the wrong reasons. Good Luck.
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reader, eeyore_babyz +, writes (17 September 2006):
 i think that you both need to sit and talk try cooking a meal or going to a quiet resturaunt men tend to listen more when they have there mouth full you never know he might not know what to say pregnancy can be scarey for men because it means they have to start growing up
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