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writes:My boyfriend has been trying to do things with me sexually while I am asleep. When I wake up he laughs and says he's just joking around and I tell him to stop, but this is the second time it's happend. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Without consent, this is techinically rape. Don't live with a man who does not respect you. If he's doing this now then it's probable that he could rape you out right in the future.
You can get someone better who doesn't have a warped attitude to sex and consent like this man obviously does.
good luck, hon!
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (27 October 2008):
 I can only say that I totally agree with all the others who have already advised you.
He has done stuff once and you said "cut it out", he then did it again and he thinks by laughing it off you are not going to be bothered about it.
You can't trust him no further than you can throw him, I wouldn't turn my back on him and I certainly wouldn't sleep in the same house/flat with him as you NEVER know when it is going to happen again.
Do you get drinks made for you before bedtime btw? That is another stage that can happen and then it is full blown rape.
Don't let this get out of hand put a stop to it now as it is not consenting sex or otherwise. I know it all depends on what he is doing from a technical point of view in respect of rape but there is NEVER a time when it is acceptable to do something to someone without their consent or being awake to either enjoy or not as the case may be to whatever is going on at the time.
Tell him that it has freaked you out and now you cannot close your eyes without fear of something happening without your consent. He may have got away with it in the past but I wonder if this has happened with any previous gf?
How long have you been together and do you live together?
Keep us posted OK.
Here anytime for you so don't be afraid to ask anyone for help as your gut instinct normally doesn't guide you off the beaten track. Yours btw is spot on so trust your instincts on this one.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Dump him, if it was me I be worried about sleeping in case it happened again! I read about these things happening so it would freak me out really badly if it happened to me. All I can say, you already told him too stop and he didn't. I don't think you can trust this guy
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (27 October 2008):
 i agree with icelordess depending on how far he is going that can count as rape.
If you are not comfortable with you have to tell him to stop because if i totaly honest him doing to stuff to you in your sleep isnt right, and i think you should tell him to stop.
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