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writes:This is really strange but, my boyfriend has been away to Canada for three weeks out of 10 and without him I just feel very hollow, and like half of me is gone/ just no here. I don't know why I feel like this but I feel very vulnerable. And I just miss him so much. We've been dating for 10 months just in case you want to know, and I've known him my entire life. But, without him home, even if i'm not with him, I don't feel the same at all. It's almost as if half of me is with him but, I just feel so moppey and irritable all the time and I just got over a cold the day after he left I got really sick so I missed him even more. What is this that I'm feeling? Is it normal? I hope nothing bad/ obsessive.Thank youlove, D Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do have my own hobbies and own set of friends just so you know, I don't just sit around and wait for his call. We each have our own lifes and our own hobbies.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 September 2009):
Relax, it's normal. Just don't sit around waiting for him to call or anything. Do something! A hobby, go out with friends, anything. A good relationship is built by two people who are interested in each other, but also occassionally have their own things to do. Keep busy and hang in there. He'll be back.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 September 2009):
Relax, it's normal. Just don't sit around waiting for him to call or anything. Do something! A hobby, go out with friends, anything. A good relationship is built by two people who are interested in each other, but also occassionally have their own things to do. Keep busy and hang in there. He'll be back.
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reader, rcn +, writes (27 September 2009):
 Taking him completely out of this picture, how do you feel about yourself? High or low self esteem? What happens often is when someone is not really happy with themselves, they depend on someone else to fill the void. This can be cause by depression or being personally off balance.
Aside from what you two do together, what are your hobbies? Do you work? Do you have a social life that he may not be part of or doesn't take much part in. My mom does scrapbook design with a group of girls once a week. I told her it's the "complain about husbands club". But it's something that's hers, allows her time that's hers every week and to socialize with friends.
If you don't have what's yours in your life, then you only have what you two share. By doing so, you're attached to what he does or doesn't do to make you happy. The best relationships are ones where he has his life, she has her life, then they have the life they share together. It's important to have them separate. You'd miss him, but not abnormally be attached because he's gone, and by his absence half your life left when he did.
If you're not doing for yourself, find something to do that interests you that is just yours. This will help you feel more whole while he's not there, and still treasure the time together when he is.
I hope this helps. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): Its the full blown true love you feel for him. Is there a way where you can contact him and let him know that you miss him ect? Its normal to feel that way i get all empty and need to see my defacto after 20 mins let alone 3 weeks. Hang in there
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