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writes:I've been with my boyfriend a little over six months. Its gotten to the point where we barely talk anymore. I feel more like a good friend he talks to occasionally than his girlfriend and I honestly don't know what to do. I do not want to lose his friendship, but I don't think I can handle being his "girlfriend" if that's even what you want to call it anymore. I love him, but not in the -i wanna be with you- way. But if I dump him he won't be my friend anymore and I know all I will get from him is dirty looks...what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 January 2011):
I'm afraid you can't really have it both ways when it comes to relationships, as you will unfortunately learn with this. Very, very rarely can ex's remain friends. It becomes very difficult, because there are often feelings there that can't just 'go away'. And it's also hard to go from being a couple, to just friends. I've rarely heard of it working like that.
I think, as the post below says, the best thing you can do is be honest with him and explain that what you've had has come to an end. Tell him that he's a good friend, and that if possible you'd like to remain friends. Hopefully, he'll be mature enough to understand. If he doesn't then you'll need to pull away.
The most important thing is that if you do want to end it, you are honest and you do end it. That way you both at least can move on.
Hope it works out for you.
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reader, Secretlife  +, writes (8 January 2011):
I think you should be honest with him. If yall aren't happy then yall shouldn't be together. Just tell him that you think yall should be friends. It's no point in being with him if he barely haves time for you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 You need to be honest with him, what is the point in being in a relationship if you are not happy and you feel that he doesnt spend enough time or effort on you. You need to be open and honest as you grow you will learn that you need to be open and honest in a relationship for it to work.
Just talk to him be honest with him tell him that you really like him and dont want to lose his friendship but that you feel the relationship is not working because you both dont spend enough time together to be in a proper relationship. If he falls out with you over it then he needs to mature and you are probably best without him if he is going to act that way.
goodluck.
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