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writes:Ok.My Bf went on holiday to Tenerife.he didnt invited me,but i didnt mind that at first.have very important exam session soon,and no much funds,so would ve been likely not to accepted if he would.The thing that annoys me is his sms from there. For.ex he would write me that he had a seafood with something or some interesting exotic eveining and than would put that tongue smiley at the end,:-P.He knows im a student, we re 5 months together,although i tried to break several times,he was pretty persistent on staying together.I didnt want to break,coz i didnt have feelings for him,But coz i felt and feel obviously still uncomfortable.In these 5 months he has twice asked for a weekend together,knowing that i cannot afford it and moreover wanting Me to organise all stuffs around.So we didnt have any,simply because he didnt give me security that I can go with my low funds,without feeling ashamed or uncomfortable about. Now he is in Caribean,at his friend house,he used the bonus from the air company he has travelled,so actually didnt pay the ticket.Thats ok,he deserves a holiday after the hard work he had,and i dont mind.But the sms are so annoying like wanting to say hey im having this and this and this here, and put :-P -that silly smile at the end,WHILE ure there studing and stressing about the exams. Should I take him seriously at all? Is he playing just games with me,taking advantige of me being there when he feels a bit lonely or?Is he that inconsidarate person!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank all for answering.For some who have mentioned that I have already dumped him in my head I would say its not true.I like the sms's about his joy there,but he never MEntioned that he miss me or else alike. AND he was the one who was IN LOVE DEEPLY. TEll me anynimous female of 8 nov. How would you feel if ur bf do such thing to you?What will you think? If he is to be friend he SHOULD have told so firstly and secondly to HAve it in mind the consequencies of his claming to love me...No one pursued him and One should bear in mind that some people do not ragard some relatinships as FUN and not to play with their feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): It seems like you have already decided that you don't want to be with him either way, so I don't understand why you would even seek for advice. You obviously feel like he is such a jerk and you want to break up with him. Feeling "comfortable" with a person doesn't mean you should stay with him
On another note, he may just be trying to share his joy with you. As a person who has travelled quite a bit in the last few years, I know that I really enjoy sending those e-mails home and then later sharing the pictures with my loved ones who I had left behind. I truly doubt that my friends see this as bragging; and if they do, that is more of a reflection of their personality, not my own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): I think ur boyfriend is tryin to make u feel bad. What u need to do is tel him that u dnt mind him going on holiday but txtin u smarmy mesages isnt making u jealous ur concentratin on furtherin ur education and he needs to learn the meanin of respect. I have a loving bf that wld only be sendin me txts sayin how much he mises me . U cn do much beta !
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 I believe it's inconsiderate of him to do all this knowing full well that you can't afford to travel and that it will make you feel bad. I find this awful. He sort of puts salt in an open wound. Perhaps he could agree to traveling somewhere else, or somewhere cheaper, and invite you to go with him? And take your schedule into consideration?
If I were you, I would ask him very seriously to stop the texts. And I would ask him how he would feel if he couldn't travel and you did what he does.
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