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writes:help my boyfriend cums too soon. we have tried everything to slowing down to less foreplay he cums in less than 4 mins no joke. any ideas on how to help me? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): get a cock ring for him
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Just get a spray/gel called lignocane about 9% strength should do it, use it with a condom to start then without when he is ready/. Should sort the problem quickly and give him more confidence and better control. If he doesn't use a condom he may also desentisise you too so best if you go first. Have fun.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 In my opinion, "Nightingale" and "q1605" offered good advice, especially the part about the man first pleasing the woman. This pertains to the apparent worldwide predominance of unsatisfied wives and girlfriends.
Based on numerous studies over decades, the emotional and biological need for sexual satisfaction among women has largely remained unfulfilled for too many. In my opinion, women should either teach or demand first satisfaction.
It is simply not that hard to satisfy a woman, but it may take from a couple of years, or decades past puberty, for some guys to figure it out.
Well, here it is in a nutshell (from a 60-something veteran):
Throughout life, men generally get-off quicker, leaving his female partner very excited, but short of achieving orgasm.
It eventually becomes apparent to a true lover that he should focus first on his lady's pleasure.
The answer may include him learning the art of cunnilingus, which works very well in many relationships. I've written a number of helpful descriptions that can be found in this Web site's archives. Try "DoubleM on cunnilingus," for instance, but it's fairly explicit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): You have a good oppurtunity here to educate the boy... and I belive that 90%+ of men (at this age) really appreciate a woman who will train them as lovers...
First, you two need to get some factual information about how to prolong your love making. Pratice techniques that will allow him to put off his orgasm. Second, I agree on the condom thing - a little less sensitivity may be a good thing.
Next, have him spend alot of time on foreplay for YOU, and less on him... odds are he can get hard as iron with a light breeze blowing, and you may need 10 to 20 min's of digital and oral attention to get nice and worked up.
ALso, regular sex may help... frequent sex may allow him to get better at delaying his orgasms.
Good luck!
PS: No matter what - PLEASE be very careful at critising him. SEVER damage can be done to young boys when they're critized reguarding their sexual ability... even if you chose to not continue the relationship PLEASE do not cite this as the reason...
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reader, pinkgoblin15 +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Well I would stick with the less foreplay. And also keep switching positions. But I mean you on top ofc that way he doesn't get winded. And if your on birth-control and only using condoms, I would switch to condoms instead because guys tend to go off faster if there not using condoms. Good Luck to ya I know how it feels lol. Oh and if that doesn't work why not have him go down on you? Only fair :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): Yes.. right when he is about to cum, try squeezing the very tip. Don't be afraid to sqeeze it tightly. He will then not cum and will be able to go for longer. Prepeat as many times as desired. It works for mine =)
~Sy.
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