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writes:My boyfriend and I are 17. My boyfriend if over a year has been bothering me about his eating sice day one. He has always binged and then starved himself, then for the past 3 months he has started being sick after eating when he thinks nobody can hear him. For example the other night, I made him tea, and we when we finished, I went and sat in his living room by the fire. I could clearly hear him being sick. I went to the door and akd him if he was alright, and he said yes. When I cofronted him about it, he denied it, and when I brought it up again later he just said 'shhhh'. I now he is bullimic, I do psychology and he shows all the signs, he is always concerned about his weight an dieting. Howdo I adress the situation? Not even his parents know. Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Well, if you are studying psy you would be well advised to ask for advice from a teacher on the subject.
Dealing with this is always difficult because you can't just tell them to cut it out. No intervention type stuff. But your psy books will have all the details.
If his parents are "reasonable" people I would tell them, just make sure they too get informed first on the subject by a doctor as you can't just confront the patient with this. The basic instinct of just forcing them to eat and watch them only makes things worse.
Inform his parents (if they can deal with this calmly) and get yourselve some expert advice, then be prepared for a very long and slow recovery process where all you can really do is be supportive of every small improvement and not condemn any relapses.
Don't try to fix this on your own, people die of this disease and however well intentioned, you are just not ready to help him with this. He needs proffesional help.
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