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My boyfriend can't enjoy sex when we use condoms

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Question - (25 June 2013) 2 Answers - (Newest, 26 June 2013)
A female Canada age 30-35, *sitok writes:

I have a problem, my boyfriend cant seem to enjoy sex when we use a condom he even gets soft, and if i was on birth control would be a good fix if i could do it, but the hormones don't do me good, i get really sick, i also cant afford to get the none hormone 5 year thing, what should i do? i fear that my relationship will fall apart if the only sexual fun my boyfriend can have comes from masterbation!

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (26 June 2013):

Tisha-1 agony auntHere are some non=hormonal options (all barriers which would be more effectie if you use spermicides as well:

The female condom

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/female-condom-4223.htm

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/004002.htm

The diaphragm

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/diaphragm-4244.htm

The cervical cap

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/cervical-cap-20487.htm

Guide to barrier methods as a slide show here: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/presentations/100107_1.htm

Chart comparing common birth control methods:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm

Go talk to your gynecologist and explain your situation so that you have the best medical advice specific to your situation.

And yes, there are condoms designed to provide greater sensitivity. Experiment with those as well. He may just need to get accustomed to the sensation and then he'll be fine.

Good luck!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 June 2013):

Honeypie agony auntThere are many types of condoms out there that can help him "feel" more so to speak. And quite honestly, I think it's your only choice for now. It's not like condoms are too small is it? Because you can fit a foot in those things!

My guess is, it's too used to masturbating and the "tightness" of his own fist and therefor is having problems feeling anything with the "real thing".

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