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writes: I found out that my bf cheated on me.I found out he cheated when the girl he cheated on me with texted him saying that she had fun last night.No I don't read his texts but at the moment she sent that message I had his phone. I asked him about it and at first he was hesitant and then finally he told me that he cheated.I cried. But anyway, so I don't know if I should give him another chance or what. We have an 8 month old baby girl together.Oh and his reason for cheating, was that he was high.Even I know that when you are high that you still know what you are doing.I'm 17 and he's 18, that doesn't really matter but I put it anyway.But I just need some advice.
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reader, Maggie Lane  +, writes (4 October 2011):
Firstly, I think you need to put your baby first. Children need stability and whatever your decision, you can't keep going back on it. Is being high somehting he does regularly, is that safe for his baby? Do you need to think about his ability's as a father?Normally I would say, at such a young age, you should get out and have your own fun but obviously with your daughter involved it's different. Do you trust him, do you believe he would do it again? Trust is very important in a relationship because if you don't trust him, you will always b wondering what he's doing, where he is, who he is with. This isn't healthy in a relationship and if you do think this is the case I think you should end it. If you believe, really and truely, that it was a mistake and that he is truely sorry, then maybe stay with him but make him realise it is not something that you will stand for again. A relationship is not about one prson doing what they like while the other person just accepts it.Either way, if you need to put your daughter first. If you do leave him, make it civil because children deserve to know both their parents and have them both in their life whether the parents get along or not.Everything always works out for the best and I'm sure whatever decision you make will be the right one. I hope it all works out, Good Luck!
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