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writes:Okay, so maybe that sounded mean but he and I are from different cultures and it's well understood between us that there are foods I like that he doesn't and that there are foods he likes that I don't. We've been living together for the last 3 months and lately it seems like it's becoming a chore, all because of this one issue. He's currently unemployed and I am the breadwinner in the house. We're out of the country and living on $10 a day--for TWO people. This isn't easy to do....and he's making it even harder every time he prepares too much food and insists I eat whatever he makes! It's really starting to piss me off! Because we're in a third world country it isn't like he can cook a lot and put the leftovers in the fridge. We have no fridge; we must eat everything we make within a few hours of cooking it. Thus, day after day after day after day he gets to the stove before I do, prepares a ton of food, and insists I eat it. I realize that he is only trying to be nice--at least, up until the point that he gets angry with me for insisting he cook only for himself--but there are other ways I'd rather he be nice, frankly. I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm being immature about the whole issue, but frankly, his diet consists of fried tomatoes... How in the HELL do I get through to him and get him to stop wasting my money and stop making me shove not-so-delicious food down my throat just for the sake of it everyday, without coming off as mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): You need to talk about it. The most important part of any relationship is communication. If you are not communicating then you will not be successful. Take your BF aside and tell him that you don't like the foods he is cooking and he is wasting YOUR money by cooking so much. Telling him that you don't like his cooking. It is better to be honest than to suffer and if you don't talk about this simple problem, you risk not being able to talk about other problems as they arise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Huh, well if you are the breadwinner then how is he getting the money to buy the groceries for the food? Shut him off at the source so he can't cook so much then show him that less food is better and now you are also saving money.
Dont know if this will help but goodluck.
PS, no you aren't being too harsh if this man is wasting your money.
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