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writes:Hello all, I have a situation where I don’t know what to do. My boss hates me why I don’t know. My boss has favorites I work for an apartment complex and there are several properties that this company owns. I am the manager and I have a leasing agent and a Maintance man. The leasing agent is with me two days a week and with the other property for 3 days. My coworker that is the manager of the other property always whines and cries for help. My boss loves her and has a personal relationship like mother and daughter. She also cries about needing maintenance help. She steals my maintenance guy all the time.......My coworker whines about being extremely busy and I did not have help for 5 months. My boss stated due unforeseen circumstances they can only help at the other property. I cried because I was then overwhelming busy... busier that my colleagues. I finally got used to not having help. What makes it hard now is ....I have legal deadlines and notices that are to be done. my boss ignores me and refuses to sign the paper work. My boss does have a boss over her. Her boss loves me but I am afraid if I tell she will retaliate and make my life harder. My boss also allows my maintenance tech to do things against company policy such as work on resident cars, hang out with them after hours. She also allows him to make his own schedule. She also hangs out with him outside of work and office hours. I am not sure what do. I know she wants me to quit but I have tried other property Managment companies and nothing was as good as where I am now. I absolutely enjoy it.What should I do?
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reader, malvern  + ♥, writes (26 January 2022):
 It's a tricky and unpleasant situation for you. Your boss is making life awkward for you on purpose and is possibly telling her own boss that you are not meeting deadlines etc. but failing to mention it is a result of she herself not signing papers on time etc.. She is slowly gnawing away at you which I think can be referred to as 'constructive dismissal'. Look it up on Google. It's to your advantage that her boss likes you and I think it's worth having a quiet word with him/her that you are not happy, that you are doing your work but your immediate boss is working against you. Hopefully they will keep this confidential between the two of you and will start to monitor your bosses behaviour towards you. They are probably totally unaware how unreasonable your boss is behaving towards you. In the meantime continue to keep looking for other jobs because there's nothing worse than being in a job where you are made to feel uncomfortable. If things get worse there are such people as business lawyers (I can't remember their exact title) who specialise in all complaints that are business related ie: dealing with unfair dismissal etc, so it may be worth seeking advice from such a person. In my experience, in my past working life, most middle management such as bosses/supervisors etc. have no idea how to 'be in charge' of others. Most of them are scared to death of anybody doing well and taking their place so they try to keep you down at the bottom. I really feel for you and I wish you every success in sorting out this terrible situation.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 January 2022):
 Take copious notes.
Make sure you document EVERYTHING - Send an e-mail requesting the boss to sign (whatever needs to be signed) don't just ASK her in person. SO you have a papertrail. Make sure you DATE everything.
Bring it up with your boss that you NEED help when you need help (also make sure you write it in an email - for paper trail) When you schedule YOUR maintenance guy and THEY "steal" him, make sure you tell your boss that it puts YOU behind (again, USE emails).
If she keeps doing it, TAKE it above her (or HR/HR person if there is one). OR suck it up. Or find another job.
THOSE are really your only choices.
I'd personally go with talking to the boss's boss if nothing changes. Enough is enough.
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