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writes:My boyfriend has been telling me that I am beautiful since we have been going out... we just had our 1 year a few days ago. There gets to be a certain point in your realtionship where you actually start to believe that your beautiful.2 days ago he decides to tell me that he didnt always think I was beautiful. He told me when he met me he thought I was not very pretty at all. But now he thinks i am the most beautiful girl he has ever met. I don't think he said it to hurt my feelings.. but it did anyway. He feels bad about saying it and its been bothering me since. I'm just very confused as to whether he finds me attractive or not. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): You love someone the more and more you know them. Its impossible for anyone to love you when they hardly know you. It makes you excited to get to know that person when they say they love you.... show them what else they can love you for. It only gets better.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (30 June 2006):
 Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, it really is true - and far better that he thought you pretty enough to go out with when he met you, bonus is that now he knows you better, he finds you beautiful - praise indeed!!
I met a man online - no picture, but a nice guy, so we e-mailed for a while before I asked for a pic of him. Not my type, good looking enough but not 'classically' handsome!!
I continued and met up with him. Suffice to say, I have been with him for 8 months now and he (to me) is the sexiest, most attractive and vibrant man I know - not just his personality, but he has, for me, that 'spark'; and we still joke about me not fancying him when I first saw his pic!!
Ask around, who do your friends fancy?..we don't all find George Clooney attractive, after all - some would fancy Tom Cruise, or some other film star; we all have our own special tastes - I like dark hair, but if a 'good-looking' dark-haired man walked into the same bar as my (fair-haired) man and I, I would barely notice!
Take it as a (clumsy) comment and get ready to move up a gear in your relationship - it seems he trusts you enough to lay his cards on the table and is comfortable enough with you to be honest with you. All good news from my viewpoint -
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2006): The reality of it is, all guys are shallow.. clearly your man was before he met you. But if i were you i would feel truely loved sweetheart, because you have grown on him.. he may have thought of you as "cute" not "beautiful" when you first met, but you have grown on him, he no longer sees you as a piece of ass but as a person, as a woman he loves and cares for, respects and admires... It probably took alot of guts for him to tell you that, sounds like he doesn't want no secrets between to two of you. Take it as you will, but sounds to me like he is telling you he truely loves you... even if it did come out a little rough around the edges.
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reader, pashun8tly +, writes (29 June 2006):
i kinda know what you are feeling, though. my ex-boyfriend told me that his friends were trying to have him get with another girl at the club that was more "hot". uh yeah? what does THAT mean? EXQUEEZE ME?
but why did i feel hurt?
i believe that there shouldn't be no comparison that's why. because you would have to have some physical attraction & chemistry, no matter how great the personality
of course, i know that there will always be infinitely more "beautiful" women around to make me feel like an ugly duckling. but a man who can look at you with adoration & does think you are the most beautiful EVEN on the surface, would be the most ideal.
but we know men are buttheads.
they tend to run off the mouth about things that are irrelevant & impertinent. like fantasizing about midgets... (no offense) no lie a guy told me that... like TMI!
i tell a guy before he says something that is off the wall, think about how it pertains to us and how it will make me feel.
stupid stuff should be reserved for their guy friends, you know what i mean? of course i have a sense of humor but i believe some things should be better left unsaid...if your man continues to say stupid things like this then i'd really, really question his character & he'd be crossing the line!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 June 2006):
 He finds you attractive for the right reasons...your personality is obviously 'beautiful' to him. I wouldn't worry too much as men can just stick their big foot (feet?) in it sometimes! My husband told me months after we started going out that he had fancied by best friend more when we first met...but didn't think he could handle her smoking so picked me instead! It didn't bother me too much however as I have a relaxed approach to my physical appearance. Perhaps you should think about if you are ok about the way you look, rather than your man - if you like your looks, then his comments don't matter so much! Try not to worry about it as I am sure he thinks you are gorgeous really...
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reader, b14d3z24 +, writes (29 June 2006):
beautiful is a very strong adjective. it is likely that he didnt find u entirely beautiful when he first met you. when he first met you all he knew about u was your physical features and he obviously liked that enough to start a relationship with you. over time he has gotten to kno your personality. peoples personalities make them more likable. so you hav nothing to be bothered by
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