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writes:Dear cupidHow do you deal with a boyfriend who you feel very self conscious about his look. He doesn't like to eat anything fat, always keep things very healthy and working out. I have no problem with that, except whenever we have to go out, I always have to be the one who wait for him to get ready. I feel that he spend too much time with the mirror anyway. Whenever we pass the store windows he will check himself out too and it gets a bit annoying. Also I feel that he always want to look his best because he loves the attention. I just want to know if there is anything I can do, thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the replies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): basically the results of all that pampering is probably what caught your eye in the first place.
same thing goes for guys. during college i took hours to get ready and i did everything i could to make sure i wasn't missing anything. i wanted to make sure my makeup was nice, my hair wasn't frizzy, i had a matching purse, high heels to make my legs look longer, etc. now i have a boyfriend and we are absolutely in love. he begs me not to wear high heels so i can keep up with him on our walks to the bars.
the truth of the matter is, i still do. i do because all the other girls do and i still want to look presentable. and a part of me wants to look good for him. i never want another girl to look at my man and think "he's hot, i can get him, his girlfriend doesn't even look like she washes her hair". most importantly, i do it for me because it makes me feel clean and productive. believe me, i have spent 80 percent of my life in sweatpants and tshirts with wing sauce on my face. there are times when i just wnat to get all dolled up though.
i don't think it's anything to worry about. worst case scenario is he has poor self esteem, which is his issue not yours. the best you could do is keep complimenting him and make him feel worthwhile. if you think he is obsessive and it is ruining his normal way of life, than this may be a result of some deep rooted emotional distress.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 May 2007):
 I don't see this as a real biggie. Maybe he's not so much vain but more insecure about his looks. Anyway it still is just an annoyance but if you love him it certainly can easily be overlooked.
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