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writes:Hi all..Hope you are all doing good and enjoying the beautiful weather (for those like me, who have and hate the snowy cold winter).Over the weekend, I met one of my closest friends' girlfriend after about two years. She was in town for a business trip and we were both very excited about seeing each other. We had met only twice or thrice two years ago and each time it was with my friend, but I have been in regualr contact with both of them. We're 25, she's 23. When she was coming here the plan was that I would stay with her for the weekend. I don't drive in the US, so my parents and I picked her up from the airport, they drove us to new york and we did a little bit of sightseeing and then she wanted to start shopping, so my parents said they'd leave and did. We shopped for her til she was tired and then returned to the hotel. While shopping for her, she treated me like I was her personal attendant, carrying all her bags, the clothes she picks, but when I wanted to shop, she wanted to leave that store and go to the next one. She slept early and woke up early and woke me up too and asked me to take a walk with her and pick up some breakfast. Now, she's here on company expense so she's keeping all receipts, whether she has paid for it or I have or my parents had. While buying breakfast, she also tried to get me to pay for a couple of calling cards and the previous evening at a deli, she asked for random fake grocery bills that she could be reimbursed for. Later, we were talking and she asked me how my bf and I are doing, I told her that we're doing great and she asked me if we have fights and I said, of course, there are times when we disagree and have arguments and listed one such incident. Her response was, "It's so good to see someone who's unhappy." I was shocked and asked her why. She said that it makes her appreciate her relationship more. I was totally offended. I mean, who is she to assume that I'm unhappy and be glad about it! I regretted confiding in her so many times earlier about my problems and I'm not sure if I should ever talk to her about such things again.Later, she said it was amazing that someone like me had done well in school. I asked her why that was. And she said because you don't seem very bright. I was so totally annoyed! I just told her, I don't mean to brag, but I've always been an A student. Then she asked me how many credit cards I have and what their spending limits are and then told me about how many more she has and how much greater her spending limit is. She asked if my bf and I spend time together and what we do and then proceeded to inform me that she and her bf spend a lot more time together and talk a lot more and completely understand each other. I was thoroughly annoyed with her by sunday afternoon! And today I called my friend and told him about her behavior, but I don't feel like I did the right thing. Should I have done something different? Is there anything I can do now? She was going to come over this following weekend too, but I'm thinking of canceling that plan. I'm sorry if this was too long. Thanks for your time :) Reply to this Question
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reader, forgonepath  +, writes (8 May 2007):
LOL..are you kidding me? you shouldn't feel bad about what you did at all. In fact, I'm surprised you didn't slap her before she left. Obviously she's very insecure and has to make others feel bad so she can feel good about herself. I know quite a few sadistic people who are just like her. Cancel the plans. She doesn't deserve your company.
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