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*aisy92
writes:Hey i just need advice on to how to deal with this situation. Me and my best friend who is male have been best friends since kindergarden and we have been together through high school but lately he has been saying his feelings for me are getting beyond a friend and since i have became with my recent boyfriend which has been a relationship for 2 months now he says its became harder for him to keep it a secret and i have a right to know.But i only see him as a friend and to be honest where so close he's like my brother so dating him would just be weird. I have no idea what to do in this situation. Also do i tell my boyfriend? Only i am scared of him being angry with my friend and i want them to be friends too. I just don't know what to do.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (2 July 2011):
no i wouldnt tell your boyfriend he doesnt have to know because nothing ig going on as for your friend explain to him you are flattered but you have a boyfriend and you like him but only as a friend explain to him with you being so close friends how weird it would be if you started dating good luck
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 Haha, the classic "friend from Kindergarten has secretly been in love with me for years"...Taylor Swift writes songs about this stuff!
Best thing to do here is be straight with your friend. Nip it in the bud right away. It'll probably be hard for him to hear, but if you truly can't see yourself ever being romantically interested in him, then it's best to be straight with him. Tell him how you truly feel about him, about how much you value the friendship but you just can't see him in "that" way.
He may be able to handle this, and he may not. Heck, he may stick around and secretly wait for the next time you're single and then he may pounce again.
But i think the best thing to do here is be straight with him.
Also, if you want there to be any hope of your bf and this friend to BE friends, i would probably not tell the boyfriend that the friend has said this to you.
It'll probably be hard enough for him as it is to accept a guy best friend and not feel too threatened or jealous, but if you also hit him with "oh and by the way he's into me", that'll really eliminate any shot at any form of not-fake-for-your-benefit friendship.
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