A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: My best friend of about 9 years, let's call her B, has really been hurting me lately. She is a year older than me, and has two other best friends, let's call them S and J, and they are in her grade. We all get along great. S and J have been friends as long as B and me have. We always used to do things at B's house usually more then anyone elses' house because she has more to do there, and we usually have a better time there. This summer, B has only been invited J and sometimes S, but never me which I find weird because I never did anything to have her do this. At J's sweet sixteen, I found out that B was taking S, J, and A (who was another friend of hers before they got into a fight). So, I wasn't invited which I was ok with, three people is enough, and I was even okay when A didn't go because of a fight and I wasn't asked. B promised me that if she goes to Delaware again, she would take me. But that was just of the beginning! She had at least a dozen sleepovers with S and J and not me. In July, I confronted her and asked why she was doing this and she said she was so sorry and that it won't happen.It did... So then time after time, I was hanging out with S and J at the pool (B wasn't there. She was in Bermuda) we talked and they both didn't understand it... So...I decided to confront her again and told how left out and how I feel that she didn't like me anymore...all she could say was sorry!!! I was so angry. But then I got over it, and decided a great way for us all to get together was to go the movies.She at first said yes, but then told me she was going to Delaware so we all couldn't. When I asked her who she was taking...she didn't text me back...only later did she say that she was taking S and J because "they wanted to go again"What about me?Why is she doing this? and How can I fix it? We've been through too much to end it now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Hey, sorry to hear that this is happening to you, I know it must seem rough, but unfournately this happens all the time. It seems as though your best friend has become your best frienemy! I doubt very much that she keeps forgetting about you , this seems very much deliberate on her part! It doesn't seem like she cares very much about your friendship anymore , so the next time you see or talk to her you should concentrate more on finding why she no longer wants to be your friend, rather than why she's not inviting to social events, in my opinion you two are way past social rudeness! I wish you the best of luck and hope that you two can reslove this quickly and peacefully!!!!
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