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writes:Ok i,m in the usual best friend or Boyfriend SituationMy best friend is good friends with my boyfriends sister. And it was her and his sister that set us up! We've been dating for about 2 months and we've had ups and downs.Now before when we were just meeting he stood me up one night and didn't text me and that really upset me and my best friend told me not to talk to him again. For about a week or so I never heard from him and I never tried to contact him then he texted me and apologized over and over and asked me out 3 times the first 2 times i said no but the third time i said yes and then I told my best friend and she told I don't want to here about it and now i don't tell her anything.She really doesn't like him and I know sooner or later I,m going to have to choose between them and i love this guy but i love my best friend.What should I do?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2011): If she makes you choose, just say "I'm not choosing". And leave it at that.
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reader, OneUnhappyLady  +, writes (14 September 2011):
 I'd like to know how long you have been friends with your best friend, because you have only been dating this guy for two measly months and have had ups and downs allready? in my experience, the first three months should be all good if he's a good guy and you are a good girl. No downs-ya dig? Eithert way, if you have been friends with your bestie for over two months-you should not be trying to ditch her for guy. Real friends don't need to approve every decision , they just help you hold your head when you get knocked down. I think she may even know that he's playin with you, but since his sister is her friend too she may not want to get in the middle. It is obvious she cares about you, either way. Grow up a little. You can have both a BFF and a BF
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (13 September 2011):
 it is not your friends call to like him. he is YOUR boyfriend not hers so if you want to be with him she will just need to accept it. BUT you can understand why she doesn't like him can't you? he hurt you, she was there for you and then he managed to reel you back in. your friend is probably expecting him to let you down again.
if your boyfriend and your friend really care about you you should not have to choose. hopefully if this guy does let you down again your friend will be there to comfort you again. you have only been with him a matter of weeks, good friends are not easy to find so be careful who you give your loyalty to if it comes to that
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): 4 years ago i would have said bros over hoes... but today I would say follow your heart!When i got with my BF back then, my friends were cool with it, but soon things changed. after time i had to choose (because of jealousy, rather than a disliking). I chose my boyfriend, and we're still together today. Of course there were some hard feelings between me and my 'friends', but it died down shortly after. I guess, if your best friend was really your bestfriend she wouldnt put you in that position - she would want you to be happy.It all comes down to what's in your heart. who do you see yourself beside in 4 years? your BF or your bestfriend?
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