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*andlelight7
writes:Me and my boyfriend work together, and thats how we met back in July. We've been together just about 2 months now. He is in the process of a divorce, but the courts won't finalize it until after his ex wife gives birth to this second child, whether its actually my boyfriends or not. The history on them is they were married for 4 years, she cheated on him numerous times, they have a 2 year old son together, this baby shes pregnant with now, hes not sure if its his because she was cheating on him around the time she got pregnant, they constantly argued, she would even call him while he was at work and start stuff with him. Shes just a very unpleasant individual. Anyway, now he lives with me and she knows about us but not actually who i am. He sees his son at work or at his grandfathers house. Yes, i knew that all of this was coming as baggage with my boyfriend when i made the decision to date him.My question is pretty much since i've never been in a relationship like this, how do i deal with all of this? Have any of you been through this? How did you deal with it?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 February 2009):
 Support him. Don't get into any arguments with the ex-wife. If you spend time with his son and him, don't pretend to be the mama but go by your BF's rules. It is his child. Also any discipline should be done by him. If you two stick it out that will change over time.
My husband ex-gf gave birth to her youngest 1 months after he and I met ( he had left her before he found out she was pregnant) It did however turn out NOT to be his. Thank goodness.
You have doubts? You don't think you can handle it? Walk away now.
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