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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex best friend and I became best friends the second day of sophomore year (about 3.5 years ago). And a year and a half after we established our great friendship, I met my ex (who was a sophomore at the time). We started dating and then this highly annoying and obnoxious guy from my German 1 class in junior year (he was a sophomore at the time) met my ex best friend and they started dating around 4.5 months after my ex and I started dating. Anyways, two years after all that drama (I, like many others in her life, hate her boyfriend for very valid reasons and she chose him over everyone else), my ex and I broke up...for the second time (first time had to do with me and another guy but I did not cheat or lie, it's basically a long story). Anyways, we broke up for the second - and final time - about a month and a half ago and I talked to my ex best friend's brother recently (he's a year and three months younger than me). But I swear, everytime I see him, he just gets hotter and hotter! I've known him as long as I've known my ex best friend and he's such a sweet guy and he's so damn funny and intelligent!My problems? My ex best friend (she wouldn't really care, she would just think it's weird/awkward as hell); I don't know if he likes me or even considers me girlfriend material...and, I'm not over my ex, yet. This guy is joining the Marines in June right after he graduates high school, so that doesn't give me much time to work with. I so just want to concentrate on my studies because I don't need a repeat of high school (my grades SUCKED!) and a guy could potentially mess that up. It happened before... I'm currently in my second semester of freshman year at college and I just can't get my mind off my ex best friend's brother! What's worse (and better) is that I want to move to London by the time I'm 25 (I'm 19 now) and meet a British pilot and get married and have kids. Seems like a weird fantasy and a bit far-off, but that's my dream life! To be a nurse/flight attendant married to a British pilot and have his kids. But honestly, what should I do about my ex best friend's brother? Oh and my ex - how do I possibly get over him faster? Should I just hang out my ex best friend's brother all the time, but then what if that creates an emotional connection and he goes off to the Marines and he's gone for months at a time and I'm stuck feeling neglected? I'm not clingy or emotionally-needy or anything (at least, I sincerely hope I'm not) but I don't think I could date a military man. At least with a pilot, he'd only be gone for days at a time and then come back home for a week.HELP!!! I'm clearly confused here!
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reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Have a fling with the hot brother. That'll help you get over the ex, and hopefully the two of you can just see it as a good time before you move on with your adult lives.
Seriously... let loose and enjoy him in all of his hotness!
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