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writes:I am talking to a guy who seems realy great we talk on the phone for long periods of time and really connect. we have seen pics of eachother and are both attracted and planned to meet this week. he sends me nice messages saying he cant wait and plans to keep our friendship going even if it doesnt work out relationship wise. My problem is, sometimes he says he ll text or call me and doesnt! it drives me insane i hate when people do this but idont want to say anything before our date because i dont want to ruffle any feathers before we even se if we conect in person...... thoughts? why seem so interested but then not follow thru with texts and calls sometimes?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 January 2012):
 Maybe it's because he sees he's coming on too strong or eager so he backs off a bit when it comes to texting/calling.
See how the first date pans out. If it's going great then for conversation I'd suggest asking him what his pet peeves are. Let him rattle off what irks him, then when it's your turn you mention a couple of yours. This is when you take the opportunity to tell him that irks you when people say they'll call or text and they don't. He'll get the message.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (17 January 2012):
You have not even gone on a date and he is already annoying you like this?
For whatever reason, whether he is "busy" or forgetful or just does not care, if it bothers you, it bothers you.
Some people, both men and women do these things purposefully thinking it will keep the other person interested in them. It is a sick game played by sick people. There are even books and magazine articles that give this advice. Its still sick.
Let him know when you go out with him that promises to call or text should be kept, and that is important to you.
It does not matter how charming or attractive he is or how much you "click". Being able to keep any kind of promise is important, and if he can't, this is an early warning sign that you have the wrong person for you (or any woman for that matter).
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): I'd wait til your date and ask him about this. Just be straight up and honest. Sometimes that can come back and bite you but wouldn't you rather be open than to just keep guessing why he does this?
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