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writes:I've met this new guy and I do like him a lot and he really really likes me, we are taking it slow to get used to each other first, but the only problem is I can't get over my ex, even though it only lasted a few weeks. My ex was a bit better looking then this one I'm seeing now even though he did treat me bad by breaking up with me and not telling me why he did not like me anymore, I think it was to do with sex. The guy I'm kinda with now will be my 2nd boyfriend making my ex my first boyfriend.Any help on how to get him off my mind and more onto the one I like know?
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (17 February 2008):
 i was in EXACTLY the same situation a few months ago. you really need to try to move on. your ex wasnt good for you. the first few weeks of a relationship are meant to be the best, happiest times of it. everythings new and exciting. so if he treated you badly then, THANK GOD you got out of it cos it would've only gotten worse.
You should stick with the new guy. I was the same, he was a nice guy, but he wasnt my ex. But I stuck with it and just got to know him and he ended up being great for me. He made me really happy and treated me so well and in time I got so into him, I completely forgot about my ex. Its good to have someone to help take your mind off it so stick with it and you might be surprised at where it ends up.
good luck
brooke
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): I think the thing that stood out to me out of the whole question is this, ''even though he did treat me bad.''
Look, honey, he's obviously got very little, maybe no, respect for you. You've got to respect yourself, and get him off your mind. He hasn't been nice to you - fair enough, he was a little better looking, but is that enough to keep him on your mind all the time, therefore disrespecting yourself? This is probably what he wants, him to stay in your mind. You're being given the chance to move on - many heartbroken girls would love this opportunity. If you're not sure you're ready for a relationship, explain that to your new boyfriend. I'm sure he'd understand. You might just need a bit of time to be by yourself, stand on your own two feet, and not rely on a guy to make you feel good. Go out to a club, have a good time, flirt with some guys, show your ex how much you've moved on! You can't get back with him, tell yourself this (and make sure you don't!). Don't let your life live on your past, you've got an amazing future with amazing guys to look forward to. Good luck :]
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (17 February 2008):
 I know its hard but i think you have got to put your ex to the back of your mind and move on. It only lasted a few weeks, so put it down do experience, a chapter in your life that has happened, now pull the curtains on it and move on. I know its not easy breaking up with someone, but the positive side is we take with us valuable experience into our next relationships, and maybe do things slightly different. So forget about your ex and enjoy your new relationship.
Good luck x
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