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female
age
51-59,
*lain Jane
writes:Met him, a divorcee thru a friendship website last Mar09. He sign up the website is to look for exchanging language friends. He has never dated online, don’t even know what is ‘online romance’ initially and after chatted for 3 months, he said he started to feel funny that ‘relationship’ can build thru chatting and he was attracted to my photos. We live 11,000 miles apart, he is in US while I am in Asia. Initially he said he would come to visit me end of Jul, then dragged to Aug – he needs to travel on business trip and later he found that it is a haul to travel to the place I stay from his business place in Asia which I can understand as it will take some 8 hours flight just to see me for a dinner and fly home.Then finally we agreed to meet in Sep, I am flying over to US and to go for a 10 days trip for holidays. I believe this is a very rare experience I ever had, that is to take up the challenge to fly alone to US and go for a holiday with someone I have never met ! he is getting 2 room for both of us. we are planning to go to National park, countryside for spa.We chatted over the fone 3-4 times, exchanging photos, telling the truth to each other about our professionals, our background and he was honest to tell me he dated many women and I knew he was dating some Koreans and Chinese ( in real life dating) while we were in the chatting. He claimed that he would not want to marry so soon after going thru a divorce recently but he kept saying to me that he is still searching for a soul mate. We had both agreed that the meet up would be just for fun and holiday with no expectation but he still he said ‘ spark’ or physical spark can happen during our meet up. I was confused and I asked him what does he mean by that as it seem like he is ‘expecting’ a relationship is going to happen during meet up, he said he had already attracted to me from the photo and yet he ‘just want to have fun’.I am starting to get confuse what will happen during the 10 days trip… if we both had the spark ‘cos I really do not know his background. He seem like a clean man ( he is a reputable corporate person). I have a mix feeling if I fall in love with him ( I think I will ) we are so far apart…Please advise...
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reader, Megan-Leigh  +, writes (1 September 2009):
This similiar situation happened to one of my friends. She started chatting to a man over the internet. In the end the decided to meet. It started of relly well and she seem like she had hit it off. However, she discovered that he had been lying to him. She ended after that. All i am saying is that people find it hard to lie face to face. When you meet him you may fall instantly in love, but please be cautious. If you feel pressured or uncomfortable at anytime say no. take it one step at a time and good luck hope it orks out for you.
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