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Masturbation after childbirth?

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Question - (13 March 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 March 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I recently gave birth to my first child a little over a week ago. Everything went fine and I only tore a little and have a few sutures. The doctor gave me the normal don't do anything for 6 weeks speech and knowing your most fertile time is after child birth, I wasn't planning on having sex anytime soon anyway. Plus for those of you who have kids, i'm still having discharge but even that is progressing normally so even with that I wouldn't wanna have sex till it is gone anyway. My question is, knowing sex is out of the question, when is masturbation safe? I am surprisingly very easily aroused and would like to do something about it but don't wanna do anything that would cause any problems.

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (13 March 2008):

birdynumnums agony auntYou should judge how to progress by how comfortable You feel. Your stitches only take a couple of weeks to heal. If you are still having a bit of flow, it's normal. It's only abnormal if the blood is soaking a pad in 20 minutes or less and it is Bright Red, in which case, you need to call your GP. I would think that the contractions that an orgasm causes would probably help your womb get back to it's pre-baby size and strengthen it, so if you get the go-ahead from your doctor, I would think that masturbating would be a healthy and beneficial release until you are comfortable enough to have penetrative sexual relations with hubby again. The rule isn't set in stone, every birth is different, so keep an open dialog with your doctor. After my first, an 8.2 son, I waited two months, but after my second, a 10.4 lb girl, we had sex in two weeks... - Gotta love those hormones!

Take care Honey! And Congratulations!

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (13 March 2008):

DoubleM agony auntCall your doctor or ask his nurse and if clitoral stimulation (only) would cause a problem, which is possible because the vulva becomes engorged with extra blood when you are aroused, and the vagina typically has contractions during orgasm, even without penetration. You would not want to hinder healing or induce damage which may require additional medical procedures.

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