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writes:I am a married man and have been with my wife for 20 years. I love her more than anything or anyone else. I have no complaints and our life together is fantastic. I have never cheated on her.My problem is that in the last few years I have enjoyed looking at pictures of mens cocks. So much so that I now feel the urge to hold, suck and lick another mans cock. I don't consider myself gay as I have no interest in a relationship with a man and am not atracted physically to men. I just like cocks!I don't know if I should give in to this urge and try to get physical with a man as obviously I would be cheating on my wife and I wouldn't want to do that or the embarrasment/disgust/shame/etc she would have if she found out I'd been with a man. But his urge wont go away.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): Thanks for all those replies. I can't argue with any of them, they are pretty much what I think too. That's why I have the problem. Just to answer a couple of points: we have no kids (out of choice) and yes I have often fantisised about sex with another woman but would never cheat on my wife. I don't think it would be particularly different which ever woman I had sex with (no offense to any women who are fantastic at sex LOL) anyway, and I have long believed that men who cheat are just doing it for their own ego anyway. The difference as far as I can see is that this is something I have NEVER done, so I have no idea what it is like. I am however put off by the possibility of catching something nasty and giving it to my wife. I could never forgive myself for that. It will probably stay a fantasy and I guess there is no harm in looking at pics of cocks.I have tried to bring up the subject of a strap on in a joking way, suggesting my wife might like to screw me instead, and I could buy her a cock, but she wasn't really keen. Not offended or anything, just not keen. She does reckon she would be good at thrusting though!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Hi,
First I thought!! how odd. But then thinking again, no its not. Its a facination thats all, and you dont need to beat yourself up over it.
I dont think you should betray your wife though. It will hurt her, and you could end up losing her. And you have said you are very happy, so dont spoil this. Do you realise, in this day and age, how lucky you are to be with someone as wonderfull as she makes you feel.
You need to talk to her, and explain why you are feeling this way. I am sure you will work your way through this some how. And hopfully it will be without hurting yourself or your wonderfull wife.
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Hi hun there are a couple of things you can do. 1. you can tell your wife the feelings you have been having and talk to her about it. 2. you can go out and cheat on your wife and have a chance of losing your wife of 20 yrs to something you just want to try. or 3. so you dont have to get your wife involved, and you dont cheat, why dont you just get a rubber dong and just play with it like it is on a guy and do all your fantisys on it. Even if you talk to your wife about it they have strap ons ect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): If you have been married for 20 years, and I'm assuming you may have children, it would be a horrible idea for you to pursue this urge for a few reasons. First, think about being on your death bed and looking at your wife and knowing that you were sexual with a man (especially if you didn't like it and regretted it!) How would that feel? Would it be worth it?Second, cheating is cheating, whether with a man or woman. Can you honestly tell me you never fantasized about another woman sexually? But you never thought about pursuing that girl because it's selfish and it's CHEATING!Third, if she found out, it could ruin your life, good name, etc. and if you didn't tell her, you'd be living with a secret that would haunt you forever.My suggestion would be to get yourself a dildo at a sex shop and suck on it, hold it and see how it feels OR if your wife and you are kinky, maybe you guys could role play and she could strap the dildo on and you could pretend to suck it, feel it, etc. The latter option would probably involve some alcohol. Best of luck, but please please don't screw up your life!!
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reader, burningbridges  +, writes (5 July 2007):
Ask your wife to wear a realistic strapon? Okay, that sounds crude, but seriously, if you're just after penis but not man, talk to your wife about this. For all you know she has a secret desire to watch you pleasure a man.
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