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writes:Ok I have a problem that i am unsure about. I am 21 and have a fiance and a 11month old. I am in college and 1 of my proffesors wants to have sex with me. He has made it clear and hes 32 married with children as well. He wants to meet me after school but doensnt say why but its obvious. I do have a crush on him but am very nervous as i have been with my fiance for 6years. What should i do? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Not to mention destroying your own childs future over a menial crush.
Basically option 2 would make you a very bad and very selfish person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Option 1: Don't do anything, it's a menial crush and it will pass.
Option 2: Sleep with him, realize you made a huge mistake. Lose your fiancé, all your mutual friends with that fiancé, lose his family, lose 6 years of a life you have built, get a reputation around college when people find out, get him fired for having sex with a student, ruin his marriage, ruin his kids family, ruin his wife's life, his kids lives, become known for cheating, and being a cheater. Have to rebuild your life for one night of passion that might not even be good sex. All for a crush you have no chance of actually getting with full time, as he will not be able to work as a professor ever again.
Your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Don't meet him. End of story. You have a partner, he is married, and a tutor to you. Be pleasant because you will still have to deal with him on a day to day level, but it is likely you are only one of a number of students he has been 'involved' with. Absolutely avoid him like the plague as far as out of college dealings are concerned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): If you're not in love with your fiancee, you should break up with him, instead of cheating with someone else, especially someone who is married! Think about how you're going to make his wife and children feel when they find out he has slept with you. You need some help with your self-respect since you're even considering this.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 December 2010):
 Basically, one night of passion will cost you far too much, even if you don't get caught. This guy does not love you. He wants to use you for sexual relief. Both of you are taken - you with a fiance and he who is married.
Think of the kids who will be affected - yours and his. You're bored with your fiance of 6 years (have you set a date to get married?). If you don't see things going with your fiance, talk to him about it, but do not go sleep around with a married man!
If you do this, it will be the biggest mistake of your life.
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