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Making a move on a friend?

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Question - (26 March 2017) 2 Answers - (Newest, 5 April 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I want to make a move on my guy friend. I'm just nervous about wrecking the friendship, but he behaves around me the same way I'd behave around someone I like, but I can't tell if I have a chance or if that's just him. The other night he literally suggested we move abroad together in the future, which must be a good sign right? I don't have an awful lot of experience in this.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (5 April 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntWell you need to make up your mind on what is important, the moment you cross friendship the friendship will be over and their is no going back, you cannot decide to date for a while and it doesn't work out so go back to friends. So if you feel your feelings are strong enough that being a friend is hard then talk to him and ask him how he feels. Him talking about moving abroad together can mean anything. Therefore you ask him would he like to go out on a date?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (26 March 2017):

Honeypie agony auntThe deal with the "we should move abroad together" doesn't really imply that he wants a relationship with you. It just means he sees you at someone he likes to be around, as in A GOOD FRIEND. I have gone on vacations with friends (both male and female) and it was never with any intentions of romance but because we got along so well.

Romantic feelings CAN wreck a friendship in 3 seconds flat IF the other person isn't feeling the same way.

How long have you known him? Has he dated other girls while being friends with you? Have you dated other guys while being friends?

He isn't you. He isn't likely to behave JUST like you in any given situation. When you say:"he behaves around me the same way I'd behave around someone I like" And how is that exactly? Is it how you act with him, for instance?

You either bite the bullet and tell him you like him as MORE than a friend (if he is single, if he isn't you DO NOT bring it up) and RISK creating some awkwardness in the friendship or even for him to step back... OR you decide I RATHER have him in my life as a friend than not at all.

So, think about it.

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