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writes: watsup people,I need help!I've been dating this girl for almost a year now,she is the best thing thats ever happened to me,the problem is my mother lives over-seas so every july I go away for two months and leave her behind.she is very attractive and alot of guys mack on her,so in our time apart I get thoughts of her having sex with other guys and things,so if she doesnt answer my call I'll call her a whore and tings.this always makes her cry.I know she loves me dearly she even tattooed my name on her arm,If I dont get over my insecurities I'll lose the girl of my dreams how do I get over my insecurities and should I trust her the same way she trusts me.SELEKTA.
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reader, martini  +, writes (21 August 2006):
 This is not whether you should or should not trust her. You obviously don't trust her. Thus your question is invalid.
Calling her a whore eh? First of all, why don't you go drown yourself in a toilet full of crap?
Alas, I have to behave.
'Fixing' insecurities is nearly impossible that I find for most people I've met and known. You either have to find yourself a girl who has super low-self esteem that will cater to your every needs and cage herself within your realm, or just friggin deal with this. From the looks of things, she deserves a better man who doesn't express a desire to be a bastard and an ungentleman.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (20 August 2006):
 Hi selekta,
I think this girl loves u alot and u should try to trust what she feels for you. To get over your insecurities u just have to keep telling yourself that no matter how much time u spend checking up on your partner if he/she still wants to cheat they always find a way to do.So take things easy and enjoy your relationship. Dont worry about the two months it will soon pass, i know alot of couples that spend much longer time apart and still make it. If what she feels for you is love it will survive and why would anyone want anything short of love??If it fades off then u know it wasnt love.
Take care dearie and have a nice time.
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (20 August 2006):
 hello selekta. there really is no way to get over your insecurities only the amount of time you spend with each other example in another 3 years time your still together your know she ent going no where then youll think i was an idiot for thinking she was gonna go to see some other man behid my back. if she has your name tatooed on your arm then what ever man shes gonna go off with is going to want to know who it is thats tatooed on her arm, what exscuse she gonna make up then?. insecuritie is a hard thing to over come but i over come so why cant you?and you will over come it in time to come.
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