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writes: Why do I have such a low rating on dearcupid?Do I have trolls? haters? Just wondering if anyone can spill me in. I'm new here and I do give brutally honest answers but that's because english wasn't my first language and so sometimes my english can come off hurtful but I don't mean to do it. If someone rates me, at least they shouldn't even bother rating if they are going to be mean about it! I mean, what's there to be jealous, mean, insensitive and hateful about me? I'm just trying to help even if it may not be what you want to hear. also, can anyone be kind enough to rate me better? Be the nicer and more mature person about it? Okay, I may not know everything about sex, drugs, whatever, but that doesn't mean I'm totally clueless about it and I deserve this really low rating of a 4.63?! What's going on?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Hi
I don't know you but you sound cool to me... honest is good in my book...keep the good work up, you take the time to help others and rating doesn't have to come from us mere mortals...you'll get your ratings either feathers or horns one day(joke).
Good luck and don't worry about insults life always throws them at us...just laugh.
via con dios.
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reader, Cerberus  + ♥, writes (24 January 2009):
 Hi Jamba, I wouldn't worry too much about rating, it is possible that other posters don't agree with your advice but that your advice actually helps the person looking for it.
That's the most important thing.
I mean if you helped one person solve a serious issue in their life, is that not more reward than what people think of the advice you give?
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reader, Emilysanswers  + ♥, writes (24 January 2009):
Maybe people just don't like the advice you give?
Sorry but you say you are brutally honest so I have to be too.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Holly7000 +, writes (24 January 2009):
Do it because you want to - not because of the rating.
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reader, satindesire  +, writes (24 January 2009):
 I've gotten my fair share of trolling and plenty of really nasty email messages. Most people aren't brave enough to confront others and they'll post their messages anonymously using all kinds of rude language because my level of intelligence frightens them, or they didn't like hearing something that they didn't expect to. Let me tell you something sweetheart (Thanks for the congrats by the way) don't you dare care for one second about your rating.
If someone deserves to get talked to harshly because they were disrespectful to you or someone else, then do so. Go ahead and let them rate you low. I don't know how many times I've come across people who were immature, rude and hateful on here and I certainly am NOT afraid to tell them off for being such morons.
This is the internet, honey, and people don't care how they act on it. They know they can get away with just about anything because they're not really standing in front of the person they're disrespecting, when in reality, if they were, they'd get either arrested for harassment or the crap beat out of them.
Your rating on this website means nothing babe. Don't you even give it a thought. *hugs!*
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reader, DoubleM + ♥, writes (24 January 2009):
 Well I have been contributing here for well over a year, and have tried to provide honest suggestions or answers based on many years of personal experience. In my opinion, the basics about sex, romance and relationships never really change much, and not in thousands of years. Yet I often get pummeled in the ratings for trying to speak truthfully and especially because I am very permissive and direct.
I'm not entirely happy that this rating system can obviously be slanted against some of us who try to be helpful - especially if we say that sex is good. Some visitors, especially those who consider talk about sexual issues should be censored, will blitz some of us with negative ratings for being open and truthful. They deny reality.
In my opinion, our Web master, Andrew, should try to moderate such negative attacks on freedom of speech and opinion, but apparently this is not the case. My personal solution is simply not to give a damn. I'll state my opinion and try to help others, mostly much younger than myself, deal with such issues, and everyone can take it or leave it. I respect and appreciate the forum, even though I'm often under attack by anti-sex freedom zealots who drive down my ratings. My advice to all is to rate positively the responses that help. Most visitors, I suspect, do not bother to rate at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah maybe, who cares. It's just the internet right? :(
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reader, planepocket +, writes (24 January 2009):
No idea.Maybe they don't understand your answers?
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