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*rchiefreddy
writes:Ok so I was with with guy called James and we were together ancouple of weeks and I was really starting to think it could work, but in the back of my mind I always thought that his ex girlfriend Jane who is so much better and prettier than me, would win him back. Then one day he said I need to talk to you. Then I knew what was coming. ... Oviously he dumped me. We were both crying. Then a few days later they started holding hands and hugging and then they started acting like boyfriend girlfriend. After ALOT of this, and alot of me feelingcrap inside, they went out. But he still says he loves me in a friend way a really cares about me which makes ne feel a tad better Thy are still out and they are so cute together. And when is see them together half my body thinks awwww and they other side thinks URRR SHES SO LUCKY! I hate feeling this way and I always compare myself to Jane. Please help.
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reader, archiefreddy +, writes (18 August 2010):
archiefreddy is verified as being by the original poster of the question To the first person who answered, I dent know him for two weeks, we had been goodfrinds ages before xxx
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 I'm sorry you are hurt and disappointed.
You did only know him just about two weeks, though, and that's no time at all. If you're only 13, 14, even 15, its a bit young to be having one boyfriend. It's the time of your life to be friendly (not serious!) with various boys, to begin to get some idea of what you like/don't like in a boy and for them to be friendly with a number of girls, for the same reason.......
However, PLEASE don't be comparing yourself to Jane! You are attractive in your own way, and pretty, too. Don't expect yourself to be pretty in the way that Jane is. You're an individual, and that's a good thing: people have different qualities that appeal to some and not to others. What one boy thinks - in his own mind - that particular girl is not attractive, only means that she's not his type.
It certainly DOESN'T mean she isn't attractive to another boy! All part of human nature.......and experimenting in the "dating game" until eventually you're a bit older and will meet someone who will want you for his long-term girlfriend - and who'll you be happy with.
Its normal to date many guys until you find "the one" you know!
So, dry your tears and remember James does care about you as a friend.........and Jane will certainly encounter her share of disappointments in the years to come!
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (17 August 2010):
You are not jane, and jane is not you! you are your own person!! finds things you like about yourself and the things you like to do! and i think that you are a very sweet girl, you let him go to her and you think they are cute together and look good together!! that was very sweet! so now find you someone you'll like and look good together. and things you will have in common thats the fun part when you share alot of things you like to do that are the same thats when you'll be good friends and have alot of fun together! and you'll hang out alot together. Have Fun!
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