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reader, Damn_hot  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 It's a matter of chance dear. He done it accidently. Even my sis some times asks me abt how she looks in her dresses.
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reader, Damn_hot +, writes (22 August 2010):
It was a matter of chance. May be he really liked ur body and said it. Even my sister asks me abt her looks in her dresses
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reader, James the Rocket  +, writes (18 August 2010):
Nothing wrong if he was aroused. The whole point of being 'good' is that you withhold from doing something you may want to do, that is against the moral code.
Take it as a compliment and don't mention it again. If anything, talk normally to him to let him know that it's ok and that your brother sister r'ship is back to normal. What he's worried about is YOUR reaction. Let him know you still respect him and that you know he still respects you.
But be discreet. U don't want your spouses/family knowing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Just leave it. I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill and can only make things more awkward than they already are.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 I dont think asking him about it will achieve anything. If he had said what he said innocently also, this will queer the pitch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thought I had been the only one at home. It was around 9 or so at night. I had a baby with my ex bf about 5 months ago and since then we had broken up so I moved back home. I have been dating a guy since the reason I bought the lingerie. I guess it is both complimentary and awkward. But I'm not sure what all he saw. Its not super see through but it is a revealing outfit. And he is 18 for those that asked. I'm debating on if I shoul ask him what he meant by it just to ensure he doesn't think of me that way! Especially now! Any ideas?
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (18 August 2010):
Accept the compliment, move on, learn to lock your doors when undressing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Accept the compliment and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): ALWAYS LOCK YOUR DOORS!!!
I have to assume your brother meant absolutely nothing untoward (is he much younger than you?) unless he stood there drooling with a lusty glint in his eye and a visible hard-on when he said you 'looked good in it', in which case maybe you're right to be unnerved.
Strongfp has a point. My sis is three and a half years older, a model until recently, and always sort of erred on the side of slightly underdressed and would often ask me for my opinions on her attire before going out. OK, fully-dressed as such and not in lingerie, but it's the same principle: you'll say in all honesty 'that looks great' or 'that doesn't really suit you' or whatever. Doesn't REMOTELY imply any sexual interest in my sister!!! (Also, I think she realised I was gay sooner than I did!)
And there's a girl pal of mine who has occasionally appeared in newspaper and magazine spreads somewhat scantily-dressed (classy not sleazy IMHO, but it's all relative) and I know I'm one of the FIRST people she asks for opinion on how good it looked.
And when it comes to bringing home sexy lingerie and trying it on, trust me, I speak from experience: ALWAYS assume you don't have the whole house to yourself. If your entire family have gone to Antartica or the Moon and assured you they won't be back for the next five years, still CHECK and double-check and triple-check to make sure no-one's in. Check your door is locked. Then check it again. And again. Ring them all and verify their whereabouts before pouring yourself into your new treats. I wish I'd adhered 200% to these rules at all times, but maybe a bit late now.
As for the brother, seriously, no worries, I'd shrug it off unless you have any other serious evidence that he's thinking things he shouldn't.
Good luck
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Older or younger brother?
Take it as a compliment from someone who was shocked. Still, I'd keep an eye on him. I've seen some posts on here that always leave a question in my head. It was very likely nothing other than an embarrassing accident for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Depends on the nature of the relationship and the closeness between both of you. I personally find it a very innocent comment that jumped to his mouth to cover for a very awkward situation. However it us you who were there and could feel the way he said that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): take it as flattery used to cover a potential awkward situation and depending on the type of lingerie ... may have been better than him accidentally catching you nude etc :) My step dad a few years ago caught me in my underwear - he was in utter shock and just stood their starring with mouth open for about 40 seconds ... had to say "SHUT THE DOOR!!!!!!!!!!!". Now that could have made him look a bit of a perv catching me in my undies and starring but honestly was in shock and was slow to act lol
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (18 August 2010):
 I'd say it was both, next time lock the door, and tell him "don't you ever knock?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Awkard lol even for a compliment. But im pretty sure he felt awkard aswell i know i would. Just dont try to bring it up it could make things worse. Best of Luck
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