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writes:I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months now. He is only 2 hours away but it's still a long ways away when you're in a relationship! I'm 23, live in a small town where all my family is and I've owned a boutique here for 2 years now. I have come to the conclusion that I'm not so much a small town girl and can't see myself living here for the rest of my life. My boyfriend is 31, lives in the city, has a house, a career, is very settled and does not plan on moving anywhere. I am the one that has to make the life change and be the one to take our relationship to the next level and move up there. Whenever the topic comes up I'm completely overwhelmed and stressed to the max because I have my business (which isn't a big money making business) here and my family. Other than those two things I don't have a lot going in this small town so there is no point even for him to move here (not that he would). So I have to figure out how to make this work! I want both my business and my boyfriend but how do you juggle that when they are both 2 hours away from each other. He brought up closing the boutique for the winter seeing how it makes most of the money in the summer tourist time. I don't want to fail either of them. My parents don't want to see my throw my business away that they helped me start for a guy so I don't want to let them down either...... I'm really confused...please help! Thank You!
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (16 November 2009):
 I would certainly NOT sacrifice my business for a boyfriend of 8 months.
However, you may want to investigate what it may look like if you tried to move the business at some point. Is there a market in your new community? What would operating costs be? Could you move the boutique somewhere within the two hour commute without jeopardizing the business?
What would you cost of living be in the new city?
Try to figure out how things would be if you are on your own (no boyfriend) and you moved.
You have not been with this boyfriend long enough to scarifice your hard work. If you break up with him do you want to start all over again?
Good luck.
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