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writes:Hey guys. So i thought i would see what others thought of my situation.Im a dancer, and i am constantly travelling overseas and going from place to place. Me and my ex boyfriend a year ago broke up partly because he didnt want to do long distance. Its been a year and i have finally started talking to someone back home. We skype once a week and its great. The question has come up about us being together once i return (for how long i dont know), and i had to be bruetly honest and explain to him its hard to get attached to anything at all because i never know where i will be and for how long. My question to you all is, is it better to build up my back bone and be strong, and except the fact that allowing myself to settle for a relationship is out of the question because lets face it, i will only get hurt in the end from having to be apart from my loved one and for god knows how long... Or should i believe the whole cliche of "whatever is meant to be will be"? In other words, allow what comes along, and if its meant to be, then we can work through the distance?What are your thoughts? I hate to go through the pain i have been through with my ex, and not sure im ready to face it again..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 When there's a will there's a way.
Eleonora Abbagnato is not just "a" dancer, she is THE premiere danseuse at the Opera in Paris. And an actress too. And a frequent guest star in Tv shows all over Europe. Quite a full plate.
She just got married with her long time boyfriend, a soccer player who works and lives in Palermo, Sicily.
What makes a situation like yours very hard to handle is that both need to be very motivated , very determined to make it work, in other words , people must be really in love and really want each other at all costs. No time and space for low pressure, carefree , just for fun relationships.
But that's not necessarily a bad thing,perhaps. It's sort of a pre-screening, a stricter seletion process. Who wants to be with you must be serious, must mean business- and viceversa for you.
It's not as much a matter of "destiny ", more of how badly you want something to last . Which gives you less choice in terms of quantity of men you could date, and better choice in terms of quality.
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