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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This is the first time I have a long-distance relationship due to school and work, and it totally bums me out not to be able to see my boyfriend more often. Anyway, I met this guy online about 8 months ago and we started dating. Everything has been amazing but different from what I'm used to. What scares me the most is that we have talked about marriage and even though he says he wants something serious with me... he doesn't want to get married. I want to get married, and I don't think it's fair for me to waste God knows how many months or years with him if he's not going to commit. Plus my mom is being all nosy and controlling about my sex life. I hate lying to her about it but if I do tell her the truth I'm sure I will be sent back home. Can someone please help? I seriously don't now what to do.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (15 December 2010):
 Being a veteran of LDR, perhaps I can shed some light on things. As you are finding out, being in a LDR is VERY difficult. It adds stress that normal dating situations don't have. If you know that this man doesn't want to marry and you really do, I would strongly advise you to get out of the relationship NOW, before things go any further. Quite frankly, its a waste of your time and his. Why waste months/years waiting to see each other when you could be out dating someone rather than waiting for a phone call, an email, or a text? It honestly doesn't matter if he's in the same time or half way across the country, if you don't have the same views on marriage, you are wasting each other's time. Don't waste your life waiting on someone who cannot/will not help you fulfill your dreams. As far as your mom, being a mom, I can say your mom may come across as being nosy, but honestly she's probably just worried about you. Try not to be too upset with her. Good luck sweetie, I hope I helped you in some way.
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